His and Her Health

Some background: My wife's libido has diminished considerably. She is 42. She is experimenting with hormone generating supplements (such as Macafem and Tongkat Ali) so that her own body generates more estrogen and testosterone (rather than using hormone replacement medications). She is also attempting to jump start her libido by more frequent masturbation. For the first time in her life, she is watching porn.

Now my question: She complains that all the porn that she can find (either DVD's or streaming online porn) is male oriented. Her fantasies seem to focus on being pleasured by numerous men simultaneously. She has no interest in watching blow jobs, coming on the girl's face or other types of typically male oriented fantasies, none of which turn her on. We have purchased "women's directed" porn from sites like Good Vibrations, however, they all contain the male orientation described above. Can anyone please recommend a site that contains truly women's oriented porn (generally) or some DVD's (specifically).

I suggest A Woman's Touch Sexuality Resource Center. They have a small but good selection of female oriented porn. I also suggest Violet Blue's book "The Smart Girl's Guide to Porn" as a guide for selection DVDs and finding other resources. For online try the site "Three Pillows".

Good luck!

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Hey, Calico, thanks for sharing those resources. Once you've picked out DVD's that sound interesting, check out Adult DVD Talk for detailed scene-by-scene reviews and then Adult DVD Marketplace for used and discount DVD. DVD's that are selling at A Woman's Touch for $30 were selling there for $10.

I have a similar situation with my wife. She really likes porn, but she also prefers the multiple men on one woman stuff. This usually means douple penetration, gang bangs, etc.

Don't do the streaming online porn. Join any of the most popular sites that let you download the porn. Then burn it to a dvd. These sites usually have 'scenes' that you can select. You can view it first and only burn the stuff she likes to the dvd for viewing.

Thank you Calico, eva_m and billb for your input. Really. We so appreciate your input. Only because we are SO new to porn, it strikes us that so much of it seems to be the same. By saying that, we are so far from being judgmental or anything . . . it's just that so much porn seems to be so male oriented. Obviously there must be a huge audience for men coming on women's faces and double penetration etc. (because there is so much of this, there must be a huge demand for it), but . . . is this what turns on the average woman? Because it doesn't turn my wife on (and therefore myself on at all). With apologies to more experienced members of this forum, but we can only imagine that there must be sites that cater to the more imaginative erotica created by and meant for women. By this we mean, porn where the *woman* (not the man) is the focus. Where what she wants is what she gets. Perhaps we need to be using different words in our Google searches? Simply said: we don't know what site to go to and (if we did), we don't know what to search for.

More, if you don't mind reading instead of watching, have your wife, and yourself, check out literotica.com. There are stories there for anyone and everyone and of every kind. Some from women, some from men. And most not raunchy like porno movies.

I've heard that Playgirl has a pretty good series--in particular Jean ValJean comes highly recommended.

Thank you all. Violet Blue's book "The Smart Girl's Guide to Porn" was a good suggestion and full of useful information.

I suggest that you check out Femme Productions. CAndida Royale is an x-porn star turned multi-media magnate and she specifically makes erotic films for women.
Jennifer Berman, MD

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I have to ask, what is it about group sex/gangbangs that women enjoy? Reason I ask is I was involved in one a few years ago, was not planned just kind of happened and I found myself losing control and just letting things happen and I hate to admit it but I loved it! Watching them is something that turns me on greatly but being in one is the ultimate feeling, I felt like a slut afterwards but when it was happenening I found myself loving it and when one man was done looking around to see who was going to be next, Why is that?

The problem with the so called "female directed porn" is the incessant talking that precedes the sex scenes. You are all so correct; women don't want to listen to a discertation; watch oral or be sprayed in the face. Good thing the remote has a fast forward button.
I keep hearing the words: "numerous men simultaneously", double penetration", "porn where the *woman* (not the man) is the focus". Fantasies may vary somewhat, but we seldom see them on film to any great extent.

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