His and Her Health

I am 21, I do have an anxiety disorder, which I was told can affect my sex drive. However, I dont really feel turned on ever, I dont get really wet, even with just myself. Its always been a bit of an issue when it comes to sex and its getting to the point of just being frusterated.. Does anyone have any suggestions or etc.?
Very much appreciated thank you!

Hi Lolaxx,

I'm sorry you're going through this! Here are some thought on your issue:

1) Have you gone to a doctor to rule out any physical problems? Do you have vaginal/vulvar pain? Are you periods regular? Perhaps they could check your hormone levels.

If it is a hormonal problem, maybe you could try a compound estrogen/ testosterone cream? I have Vulvar Vestibulitis and so my problem is different than yours, but I was prescribed an estrogen/testosterone cream and it has really (among other things related to VV) increased my libido. It helps me a get a lot more wet down there and I seem to get turned on with less stimulation.


2) You might be putting a lot of mental pressure on yourself to have sex/be turned on and as you've already heard, anxiety can make it even harder. Maybe you could take a little time off "trying" to get to a better place mentally.

When you come back to it fresh (and not frustrated!), you could explore things that turn you on. Could it be that you're limiting your thoughts to things you feel you "should be thinking about" and not what actually turns you on? Some food for thought...

3) On a related note, are you in a relationship that has some problems? Issues between a couple can often has repercussions on your sex life. If there's anything hanging over your head, the best thing really is to talk about it (cliche or not, it's the truth!)

Anyways, hope this helps you!

Alex

If you are on medication for your anxiety problem you might want to ask your doctor to put you on one that has less on no sexual side effects.