His and Her Health

This is my first post here. I am in my early 20s, and until this week I had never orgasmed before. I am a virgin by choice, as I have never had any real desire to have sex with another person whether male or female (I consider myself myself mostly asexual). I do believe I have a slightly above-average sex drive, however, because I have always masturbated a lot (usually at least once a day). I would do this even though I never reached orgasm ever!

This weekend, though, I must have accidentally learned some sort of new trick or something, because I did have a clitoral orgasm through digital stimulation and it felt absolutely amazing, 100x better than any plateau-phase pleasure I was having before. I managed to have three more orgasms that day, and then two more the next day, giving a total of six orgasms in that period. I am not depressed by any means but there was a big improvement in my overall mood; I felt like the guy on the Enzyte commercials.

For the past two days, however, I've been unable to climax again, even though I've been trying. I think this may be because my clitoral region is a bit sore from masturbating vigorously so much. I know this shouldn't concern me too much and that I should just "cool off" for a few days, but part of me is worried that I will become anorgasmic again. Before this weekend that prospect didn't bother me at all (I considered the plateu phase to be adequate), but now that I have experienced the euphoric pleasure of the orgasm I can't stand the thought of potentially not being able to climax again.

Is this a valid concern? That is, is it possible for someone to live their lives up to a certain point without having experienced an orgasm, then go through a brief, intensely orgasmic period, and then lose the ability to climax again? I have also (in the past and recently) come very close to achieving a vaginal orgasm - is this something I can "work on" as well? I just feel physically and mentally frustrated that I haven't been able to climax again... I come have close to that point of inevitability but then just can't go all the way for some reason, and then I get (the female equivalent of) blue balls.

Also I have found that while I am being stimulated vaginally, clitoral stimulation does nothing for me (it has little to no feeling at all), and while I am being stimulated clitorally, vaginal stimulation does not really do anything. I can either have one or the other, and it takes me a minute to switch between the two if I so choose. Is this normal? Is it possible to train myself to experience pleasure from both of these areas simultaneously?

Sorry for this long post, and I thank anyone for advice they might offer.

You are perfectly normal in all physical respects. Give your body some time to build up orgasmic steam and you will be able to have them again. Six in a row will take a beginner out of the running for a while. Now that you have learned what it feels like, you will be able to get there more easily in the future.

It is a little unusual that you aren't attracted to anyone sexually. It might be because you haven't met the right person, or you might be as you say, asexual.

Thank you for the reply. I will give it some more time.

About attraction: I am heterosexual, but I am so extremely picky that I have never met someone in real life and been attracted to them... At all. That's why I say I'm mostly (as opposed to completely) asexual, because although in theory I feel I could want to have a relationship with a man, that certainly hasn't happened yet.

Additionally, I am a full-time student and I just don't feel any sort of longing to devote myself to another person at this time. I also dislike being touched/kissed by other people. I'm definitely not saying I will never have any relationships, but for now I am single and happy with it (which most people my age can't comprehend, hahaha).

I was thinking about giving your diet a try, but I have some concerns - I have endometriosis, which gives me excruciating pain every period unless I munch on Advil like Skittles, and I am worried about what effect the diet will have on that. I read on here about one woman who also has painful periods, which became worse after changing her diet. How common is this effect and does it matter if someone already has painful periods to begin with? I also read that some of the diet components can interact with over-the-counter NSAIDs? Thanks for any information on this!

At 20 and a full-time student, I wouldn't worry too much. I think it's great that you know yourself so well and don't feel pressured to jump into something you're not ready for just because everyone else is. A lot of young women do and it doesn't usually end up making them happy. When the time - and the guy - is right, everything ought to fall into place.

I'm a huge fan of zaneblue's diet, but I don't know that I'd rush into it if I were you. It can be pretty expensive for one thing and it may not be necessary (though you might want to buy the book - there's a lot of great info in it). Now that you've had some O's, give yourself a little time to learn your own burn rate - how often and what works for you.

You might also want to think about why you don't like to be touched or kissed. Is it just that you haven't found the right person? Something about how you were raised? A traumatic event in your past? Sometimes these things can be worked through. You may just not be ready for it yet. Or you may simply not be a touchy-feely sort of person. Nothing wrong with that as long as you find a guy with a similar disposition.

Good luck to you! It sounds to me like you're doing great!

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Thanks for the reply!

Nothing traumatic or anything (in fact, I had a pretty normal childhood), I just dislike it for some reason. I also won't share food/drinks with other people if involves getting their spit on them. I don't have a fear of germs though, so it's not that.

I have another question... Do frequent orgasms raise the amount of testosterone in women? I'm asking this because since last weekend I have gotten an acne outbreak (I have never had bad acne, but right now I have three pimples), been unwittingly driving faster than I normally do, and feel a bit more aggressive in general (though I am still a very laid-back person).

Emily I don't think there has been any studies done about frequent orgasms in women raising T in your case as you mentioned yours are solo orgasms with no male present.

There have been studies showing frequent sex and orgasms with male can elevate T levels. It has to with male pheronomes that a female absorbs from skin contact during sex with a man.

Since you said you climax solo so I suspect it is probably related to your cycle which will defenitely cause changes in your T levels.

Also diet can effects T levels. What you eat effects your SHBG levels. These are little gremlins that bind up T and keep your body from using it. Lower your SHBG levels and you will have more T available.

I don't know much about endometriosis but I do know that high doses of fish oil work as an anti-inflammintory and may help with the pain.

As far as fish oil and NSAIDs there is some concern about the blood thinning aspects of fish oil and blood thinning agents which aspirin is to some degree. You said you use Advil and not aspirin so I don't think that would be a concern.

Another benefit that can come from high doses of fish oil and diet changes has to do with brain chemistry. By following the diet you may find yourself being more "touchy feely".

Also look into following an Alkalizing diet program. I think it meshes well with zane's diet. I have hear of people with endometriosis having a lot of success getting their body to be alkaline.