His and Her Health

Hi,

Three years ago I wrote on here that the only way I was able to orgasm was by rubbing my pelvis against the hard floor. I'd tried using my hand but never seemed to feel anything and just got irritated. I thought I might have damaged the area by rubbing it too vigorously.

Well, I started seeing a sex therapist (a PhD psychologist) shortly after that, and she gave me the encouragement I needed and exercises to try every week. She suggested that when I was ready to give up during a practice session, when nothing seemed to be happening, I should keep going, and notice if I felt ANY pleasurable sensations at all. After a while, I did start to notice sensations, and before I knew it (within 3 or 4 months of not-very-consistent practicing) I had my first orgasm by using my fingers. The therapist also recommended I order a self-massager (available in the health section of most drugstores, or online; Conair worked for me) and try rubbing the clitoral area with the ball-shaped attachment. That really helped too. I now find it a lot easier to do it with the "vibrator" than with my hand.

Anyway, I was 40 years old and had nearly given up. But with a last-ditch effort and enough determination, I made it happen. So keep trying! It's worth it!