His and Her Health

I'm new here but it seems like the place to ask. I'm in my mid-twenties with a great boyfriend. We have tried to have sex several times but each time my hymen is so incredibly painful that he cannot penetrate. We are slightly allergic to lube so we make sure that I am as aroused as possible. I've never used tampons since they hurt too much to insert. We've been trying to stretch with one finger and then two but when it comes to him, it's just too painful. He's very gentle but I'm about sick of not being able to have sex with him. He thinks its psychological and perhaps it is since I'm terrified of the pain. Any suggestions?

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