His and Her Health

I can orgasm on my own but find great difficulty doing it with my partner. He goes really quick- we have tried pillows, female inhancement cream, etc- he refuses to try desensitation cream for him- any segestions on how to make him last longer or how to have an orgasm quicker?

Neither. My best advice is to take as long as you need and get there or very nearly there before penetration. Manually, orally, whatever. And if he finishes still before you orgasm, he should see that you get there after. There's more ways to have an orgasm with a partner than by penis and it still 'counts' as WITH your partner.

Keep in mind. MOST women can't climax from intercourse alone. It's perfectly normal. Even if he lasted longer, you might still need other kinds of stimulation. There's nothing at all wrong with you!

Amen to that! My husband is the same way and it's never been a problem. We have lots of foreplay, then he likes to bring me to orgasm first orally or manually - as many as I can - then we have intercourse. It's worked great for us for over 30 years. Sometimes, just for fun, he uses a condom with a numbing gel inside ("Extended Pleasure") so he'll last a little longer. There's no pressure on him to last any longer than he wants to and we're both satisfied.

Foreplay makes him go even quicker, and has not been able to make me orgasm manually or orally- he does not like to give oral sex because In his words "I get to wet"- I just dont know anymore...We are extremly stressed which I believe plays a big part in it...Thanks for the adivce though!

Originally posted by Tally:
... he does not like to give oral sex because In his words "I get to wet"*rolls eyes*
Get a new partner.
Find a man the next time.

the creams that help him prolong do so by numbing. when my exhusband used it, it also made me numb kind of so it slowed us both down which was counterproductive to what we wanted and what you want.

Here i would like to say that i was facing same problem but after using a delaying spray i stay as long as i want some time its works 45 mins or even little more .........but here i want to clear when you use a delaying spray after five mins
wash your penis so when you intercourse it will not numb your wife organs......
i hope this will work for many people .

HERE I ASK YOU ALL TO SEARCH FOR SIDE EFFECTS ON USING A DELAYING SPRAY IF ANY AND LETS KNOW IF ITS HARMFULL OR NOT .

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