My partner and i have been kinda sexually active for awhile, meaning we were doing everything up to sex for a few years. When we first started, it was hard for me to accept anything besides his pinky finger in me it took awhile to get up to a point where i was comfortable. The first time having sex was fine besides him being worried about his control,i didn't feel any pain which i thought was odd. Then the next time around the pain came, mainly around the opening and after i reached a climax i became really sore when my partner tried to continue, seemed like the muscles wouldn't release. After trying to continue for a few minutes i gave up because of the pain. I could actually feel how tense the muscles were by rubbing the outside. Is there any way i can get these muscles to relax so we can continue? We even tried putting more lube on thinking that it was the
condom rubbing too hard. Any advice? Thanks.