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Vaginal Pain 10 Months ago Karma: 0
My partner and i have been kinda sexually active for awhile, meaning we were doing everything up to sex for a few years. When we first started, it was hard for me to accept anything besides his pinky finger in me it took awhile to get up to a point where i was comfortable. The first time having sex was fine besides him being worried about his control,i didn't feel any pain which i thought was odd. Then the next time around the pain came, mainly around the opening and after i reached a climax i became really sore when my partner tried to continue, seemed like the muscles wouldn't release. After trying to continue for a few minutes i gave up because of the pain. I could actually feel how tense the muscles were by rubbing the outside. Is there any way i can get these muscles to relax so we can continue? We even tried putting more lube on thinking that it was the condom rubbing too hard. Any advice? Thanks.
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Re: Vaginal Pain 10 Months ago Karma: 11
Have you been to a Gyn for a diagnosis yet? It might be that you need some Pelvic Floor treatments to loosen muscles. Your Dr. can advise you on that.
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Re:Vaginal Pain 10 Months ago Karma: 0
You can try to use dilators first to help release the tense muscles. You can also try massaging the area with olive oil or your lubricant. But I would also mke sure it is no your lube which is irritating you. Finally, as the moderator stated, you should be evaluated by your gyn to rule out any issues.
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Re:Vaginal Pain 8 Months, 2 Weeks ago Karma: 0
Dear Smster355,

It sounds like your muscles have become overly tight due to you anticipating pain upon penetration. Since you're been sexually active for a while, this might be a problem that has been building for a while.

I also have had an issue with uncontrollable muscle spasms/tightness and the way I made it better was to massage my glutes and the muscles inside my vagina every day. What I do is I put a tennis ball between me and a wall and gently massage my glutes. I am sore where the tightness is and I have a hunch that you will be as well. I do this for about 20 minutes each time (but I aim for twice a day). Be very aware of what your vaginal muscles are doing when you do this tennis ball massage...I've noticed that mine get noticeably more relaxed as I go along.

I also massage the muscles right inside my vagina. I find them by inserting my finger inside my vagina and pushing out as if I'm going to go to the bathroom. I am most tight on the right but you should check everywhere to find where you need to massage. When I press on the muscles that are most tight, it feels like a toothache. It sounds weird but you'll see exactly what I mean when you find them.

Be very aware of how you control your vaginal muscles as you go through the day. Once I made a point to check, I found that I was often clutching my muscles and it took a while for me to learn to relax them when I was going about my business.

Learning to control those muscles has made a huge difference in my sex life. For more info and help on how to decrease the intensity and duration of pain during sex, go to .vulvarvestibulitisrelief.com/dealingwithpainduringintercourse
Hope this helps! Good luck!

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