hi jessica,i have been a long time sufferer from this problem as a man, and trust me i have had the same failures and disappointments as your husband is going thru now. I can read how dejected u r feeling and the very word sex with him can be very offputting as you know that he will come too soon and u will be left high and dry.It is very defeating for us men too to come too soon and can really pull us down for the whole week and more, we all have seen porn stars pumping away in movies and literally tearing a womans guts out, and ofcourse we want to emulate those studs, but unfortunately we cant, cos we are just built different. But that does not cure the problem, for us men know that something is missing in life. Our ego( certainly mine ) was too darn big to acknowledge the fact that i was inadequate and suffering from this problem of PE. What is worst of all at some stage i acknowledged the problem to myself privately and suffered in silence as i was too embarrased to talk abt it to any one.Anyways i started researching and reading into this issue which has been a struggle with me all of my life so far( i am 47 by the way ) and have made a conclusion that the problem is manifold and varied and there is no quick fix for it, there are a lot of techiniques that one can use provided one is in the company of an understanding companion,and THE MOST vital treatment to this is to talk abt this with your partner ( for this male problem affects females as well)
Secondly take a look back at your adult life and find out what turns you on and what brings on an
orgasm i.e is it clitoral stimulation that does the trick or is it vaginal stimulation or a combination of both. Knowing what exactly u want is the Key to your
sexual health and once the man knows what delights his partner the battle is already won, i ll tell u how !
Okay, i will recount this from my life experience.Many moons ago i met this lovely girl and as we got to know each other ofcourse we ended up making love, as predicted i came too soon and i was embarrased, i decided to let her know my condition, to my surprise she said that vaginal thrusting for her was of no great concern,as much as how much she liked her
clitoris masssaged and vigoursly rubbed. That was the KEY ! so we worked out a plan where we would have extended foreplay with ample use of the tongue and lips and hands, and then when she felt she was nearing a climax she would mount me and then lie on top of me with her legs closed and start to sort of vibrate or move rapidly her pelvic area, with me helping her as well by grabbing her arse cheeks, and during this process she was not actually hopping on the
penis, it was kinda buried inside her and that gave her satisfaction and then her quick rubbing movements gave her the clitoral massage,and with this technique time after time she had full orgasms with her body drenched in sweat with the effort. Once she had her fill i would SLOWLY withdraw and then mount her doggy fashion and then probably enjoy my 10-15 hard thrusts and have my fill too.This worked very well for us.
On a similar note i had another relationship where i was living with this lovely lady who enjoyed the prolonged thrusting that u see happening in porn movies, well i communicated once again with her, she told what she wanted and i said we can work things out, and i went out and bought a strap on hollow dildo of the size she wanted and after foreplay once the penis was erect kind of slipped it on and strapped it up ( made me feel good from 4.5 inches to a massive 8 inches
) )) penis then i would mount her and give her a vaginal pounding every which way until she was satisfied, during this sometimes i would come too, but that was fine as the dildo was still hard and firm and there was no need for me to stop, and most importantly i loved her and was willing to do things for her to pleasure her.She often asked me if it bothered me to do all this for her and ofcourse it did not, there is no sweeter sound or sight in this whole world than to hear a woman coming and going through an orgasm.
So you see jessica there are things that YOU as a woman can work out, now that u know that hubby has a dysfunction, let it not drag down your relationship, do not hate him or despise him for that, he is no lesser a man than any other, most important u two are in love and willing to look after each others needs and that is what counts in a loving and caring relationship.
Some asian men that i have been talking to as well prescribe to
kegel exercises for him, these are slow and results are not overnite, one has to persevere through discipline and can def help. Try them and anything else that gives u pleasure,sex is not a luke warm affair, u got to make it hiss and steam. Good luck Jess.
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