His and Her Health

Overall, my wife and I have a great sex life--it's fun and creative, we make love 2-3 times/wk; even after over a dozen years of marriage, we're still finding new and playful ways to give each other pleasure. <P>The problem is her physical enjoyment: she really has trouble building to orgasm and has zero, zilch, nada libido. This isn't a long-time problem, she used to have at least average sex drive. <P>This also isn't a matter of us not understanding her anatomy or emotions--we're very aware of romantic and physical stimulation and what it takes to get her to climax, which used to happen virtually every time we made love up until roughly 6 months ago--the birth of our 5th child. <P>She's given birth 5 times in less than 8 years, and I fear that this last birth was the last straw for her desire. She still makes love often because she loves me and she enjoys finding new ways to give me pleasure and because she likes the emotional closeness, but it doesn't seem fair that she should have to almost completely give up on her physical fun. <P>Her libido--likely due to a steady decrease in hormones as well as the usual fatigue associated with chasing small children about--has decreased to ZERO! She still has orgasms perhaps one in four times we make love, but she never, ever has a shred of physical desire at the outset, and those times she does have an orgasm, she's exhausted and frustrated at the end, as it takes so much effort to climb the mountain, she wonders if it's worth it.<P>I want her to be as happy about our sex as I am. Is there some SAFE therapy for replacing diminished hormones, or are there other problems that could be present of which I should be aware?<P>Thanks!<BR><p>[This message has been edited by 0527 (edited February 03, 2005).]

hi! I am going to suggest you re-post this to the Women's sexual health forum. This topic is dealt with pretty extensively6 over there, and the posters are very knowledgable. Jut click on the "Sexual Health Community " link at thetop of this page, then click on "Dr. Laura Berman's Women's Sexual Health."

Thanks!