His and Her Health

My boyfriend and i have only been sexually active for about a month, and we were both virgins previously. I can get him to orgasm through oral sex easily, it usually take around 10-15 minutes, however when we have sex, he says it feels good and he likes doing it, but he can seem to get a buildup going towards orgasming. I feel so confused and i feel like somehow it's my fault, either he doesn't find me attractive, or i'm doing something wrong. Should we just keep trying? Try some different techniques?

it seems like i can't please him and that makes me feel so hopeless

Hopefully he is using condoms but he may be a bit nervous that you might get pregnant. Since you both are new at this you probably just need to try something different. I doubt you are doing something wrong.

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i have been on birth control for 4 months, i have never missed a pill and we always use condoms!

If he masturbates a lot he may be use to a tighter grip on his penis. He could hold off a while from that then try to orgasm from intercourse it might make the difference.

Well, at least he can come from something you do to him! I have not even been able to come from oral sex. Maybe you simply have good technique.

Anyway, the logical thing to do would be to blow him until he's about to come and then hop on him and ride him until he comes. Over time, you could decrease the amount of oral sex necessary beforehand.

Carlyxo,

How is your vaginal fitness? What I mean by that is can you control your vaginal muscles and tighten them around his penis?

Since you are new at sex you may not be aware that you can learn to control and grip a man's penis using your vagina. Its called the Velvet Grip Technique.

To get good at it you have to do more than just " Kegel exercises" but it is not that hard to learn if you use a pelvic exerciser.

Here is a link with more information about it: myhealthyhappylife.com/ezcome-kegelmaster/better-than-a-blow-job-the-Velvet-Grip-Technique-Kabbazah-and-the-Art-of-Pompoir.html]The Velvet Grip Technique[/URL]

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