His and Her Health

Hi there, this is my first post here as you can see. First of all sorry for my (possibly) bad english.

So the problem is the following: My sexual life became active some weeks ago, maybe a month actually, i mean i lost my virginity not long ago and i'm facing a problem that i can't uderstand it's roots. My girlfriend can turn me on very easly (with only kisses for example..even in a public place i can get an erection with her soft arousals), she is a beautiful woman and i really love her but after my first time with her i'm facing a problem that really disturbs me. It's like, we are sat on sofa (alone in home) and we are arousing each other just with kisses and "soft" things.. i always get very excited(with good erection) with just that and her too but when we move on to some other advanced type of arousal, like touching each other genitals, i just don't know what happens my excitement goes down, i feel some kind of blocking that disturbs my pleasure moment..it doesnt make any sense to me and i feel really bad about it..i've noticed i get a bit nervous, and my respiration changes a little bit(nervousism). The first time it happened i thought maybe because of my low carb diet, then after some minutes i went to the kitchen to drink something with sugar and after being laid with her listening some music ..more relaxed i could get a very strong erection, we had sex with no problems i had an orgasm and 5 to 10 minutes later (after having the orgasm) my penis could get erected and we had sex again but this time it lasted much longer. So, i redesigned my diet..but it did not solve the problem, next time we had sex that thing happened again (but not for too long) i lost my erection when things got a little more advanced but some minutes after i could get erection. What could be the real source of the problem? It seems to happen always but few minutes after i get normal but this thing is disturbing me since now i always have that fear of being impotent and don't want my girfriend to think its her problem, this is really confusing

Shaman, you are stressed with exams and nervous because you are new to lovemaking. Things will become more natural to you and with more practise you will become more confident in your abilities

Hey thank you for replying..you know it's always good to ear something from someone who knows stuff..

I hope it's only that..

Another thing that i've noticed recently was the fact of my sperm being thinner..it always was thick but last times i ejaculated i've noticed it more watery, is this related? or should this mean something?

Thank you

hello shaman, sorry to hear that! I was curious though did you ever figure out how to manage your troubles? I've been having the same stuff happen to me lately and its been trying me nuts. I've been also getting tension headaches from all the stress.

Basically, in between girls ive had i always had anxiety about sex but it never affected my erections. Then it first happened while i was trying to have sex in a SUV with a girlfriend i had at the time and i kept loosing my erection right before sex and it bugged the heck out of me because i liked the girl alot. Anyway, i went out fine for several years and just recently it happened again with my last to girls i slept with. Im pretty sure its anxiety but my real stress comes from questioning why now, why is it happening so late in the game, you know?

<small>[ 09-06-2009, 09:38 AM: Message edited by: Moderator ]</small>

Guys ,

I dont wanna freak you out but I am a very bad victim of the same stuff. I get solid erection looking at her and kissing but then loose at the point of touch or sex. This was since day 1 of my sex life and I think I am now kinda becoming impotent.

In a nut shell the excitement goes down just when we get naked and even if I somehow manage to have a loose erection the penetration or her mouth kills it ?


Anybody please help !

-Shany