His and Her Health

Hi Forum,

I'm a 30 y.o male in a relationship with a 37 y.o. male. We've been together for 11 years. No medications,no health issues,no sexual trauma between us.

I must start by saying we've never had a "normal/average" sex life. We haven't had sex in at least 6 years. He just has "NO" sex drive. No interest in sex at all. Testosterone levels are fine,but just void of sexual desire.

I've finally gotten him to open up a litte. So we masterbate to pornography about 3 times a month but that's all. He will never initiate the act of masterbation. He just lays there.No motion.No sound...it's honestly better by myself! I've tried simple dirty talk and he just shuts down. Penetration isn't an option, he used to penetrate me the 1st 3 months of our relationship but has since said he has no desire to penetrate or be penetrated.

He likes pornography and that's fine but it's so rare! He never touches me, he can't even give a hand job. He won't try viagra or therapy.

No, not all gay men are bed jumpers...I really love him and I want to spend the rest of my life with him but I'm frustrated and sexually starved. No ..I don't want a sex buddy to get me off..it's dangerous, empty, and dishonest. I just want my husband.

Minus the sex, he's amazing..caring..never strays..generous and most of all he's my best friend.

Any advice?