Kunena Site Syndication http://www.hisandherhealth.com/ Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:50:29 -0500 Kunena 1.5.6 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/components/com_kunena/template/default_ex/images/english/emoticons/rss.gif http://www.hisandherhealth.com/ Kunena Site Syndication http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/2-sexual-pain-disorder-and-gyn-topics/39291-anal-sphincter-muscle#39307 the sphincter itself may be causing the pain itself. Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:44:09 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/7-mens-sexual-health/39258-sexual-anxietycondoms#39306 Look man... all you had to tell me was you were 18 and having erectile problems... and I can tell you with 99.9% certainty, is is sexual performance anxiety. I had the same problem around your age. You want to take pressure off of the situation. It's funny how at your age, something like this happens, and you don't explain to her. Explain to her that you like her so much, and that you are so excited, that you are also nervous, which gets in the way of your erections... it's true, isn't it? You want to take it easy and enjoy the situation like no one's watching... take your time and enjoy her body and get as aroused as possible... DO NOT THINK ABOUT YOUR ERECTION... it's a natural process that will come along on it's own. Good luck... and everything will work out... trust me. Take it easy... :wink: Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:38:53 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/7049-far-too-wet#39305 Re: Far Too Wet I am in the same boat as you. In August I was diagnosed with a condition called "hydrosalypinx) it means inflammation of one of the fallopian tubes. Before I was diagnosed, I was getting this severe pain deep in my vagina, and a continual steam o milky white fluid. Just as you did , I saw my gynaecologist who had this discharge from my vagina tested, came back showing no bacteria. I continued to have this discharge, in fact I would just have to sit on the toilet and my vagina would just open up like a torrent of milky fluid, sometines accompanied by severe burning, almost like I had my own personal flame thrower inside my vagina. Because I have a rare neurodegenerative disease, and it makes it impossible to insert any applicators into my vagina for treatment so my husband does this for me.It is usually quite painful inside my vagina very high up when he does this. I had a pelvic ultrasound which showed I had the "Hydrosalpinx and I was told that the discharge from my vagina was probably leaking from this infected tube and I had a course of antibiotics and it seemed to clear it up. Only I got thrush from the antibiotics, which normally happens when I have antibiotics. If I was you I would ask for a pelvic u/s to be done to check to see if you have sometihing like this. You may or may not but it might be worth getting it checked, because it would be better to know now in case, like me, it becomes chronic and then takes longer to shake off. You need to find out to get peace of mind with this so have it checked out. I would be interested to know what you find out Good luck. BB Fri, 20 Nov 2009 07:04:15 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/7-mens-sexual-health/27528-ejaculation-without-orgasm?limit=15&start=2085#39304 I am worrying too as many key members, including needhelp31 have never come back after the changing of platform. :( Fri, 20 Nov 2009 00:43:12 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/11-menopause-discussion/39303-rheumatoid-arthritis-sufferer#39303 WebMD is doing a story on the challenges faced by women with rheumatoid arthritis and experiencing menopause. Specifically, they are interested in learning more about intimacy issues. If you (and perhaps your doctor) are willing to speak about this, please email us at info@redhotmamas.org. The reporter is hoping to speak to someone by the end of the weekend, though the interview may be as short as 10 minutes. Your time and feedback would be greatly appreciated! Thu, 19 Nov 2009 17:14:38 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/2-sexual-pain-disorder-and-gyn-topics/39302-national-tv-show-seeking-women-to-share-stories#39302 From: National Vulvodynia Association View Contact -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Producers at a national television show are looking to interview married women who've been diagnosed with vulvodynia in the last six months. They'd also like to hear from single or married women who experience chronic painful sex but haven't been diagnosed. If you fit these criteria and are willing to share your story on national television, as soon as possible, please send an e-mail to chris@nva.org with the following information: - Name - Age - Are you married or single? - If you're married or in a relationship, is your partner willing to be interviewed? - What symptoms do you experience? When did they start? - If applicable, what condition have you been diagnosed with? When did you receive a diagnosis? How many health care providers did you visit before being diagnosed? - Have any treatments helped you? Is your vulvodynia better or worse? - How does vulvodynia or painful sex affect your life? - How has the condition affected your sex life, marriage or relationships? - Daytime phone number and e-mail address - Current photo (please attach) - Statement that you give NVA permission to forward your story and contact information to the show's producers. Please try to limit your summary to 1-2 paragraphs. Thu, 19 Nov 2009 16:06:51 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/2-sexual-pain-disorder-and-gyn-topics/39301-womans-day-seeking-therapy-stories#39301 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- For a Woman's Day article, freelance journalist Sarah Jio would like to interview women who've been treated by a sex therapist. She'd like to know how working with a therapist helped to improve your relationship and/or intimate life. She's also like to hear from women who had a negative experience. If you'd like to share your story, please send a 1-2 paragraph summary to sarah@sarahjio.com. You can remain anonymous or include just your first name. Her deadline is Thursday, November 19th at 9pm EST. Thu, 19 Nov 2009 16:04:07 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/39300-womans-day-seeking-therapy-stories#39300 Thu, November 19, 2009 12:00:31 PM From: National Vulvodynia Association View Contact -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- For a Woman's Day article, freelance journalist Sarah Jio would like to interview women who've been treated by a sex therapist. She'd like to know how working with a therapist helped to improve your relationship and/or intimate life. She's also like to hear from women who had a negative experience. If you'd like to share your story, please send a 1-2 paragraph summary to sarah@sarahjio.com. You can remain anonymous or include just your first name. Her deadline is Thursday, November 19th at 9pm EST. Thu, 19 Nov 2009 16:00:46 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/39299-national-tv-show-seeking-women-to-share-stories#39299 Thu, November 19, 2009 3:40:54 PM From: National Vulvodynia Association -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Producers at a national television show are looking to interview married women who've been diagnosed with vulvodynia in the last six months. They'd also like to hear from single or married women who experience chronic painful sex but haven't been diagnosed. If you fit these criteria and are willing to share your story on national television, as soon as possible, please send an e-mail to chris@nva.org with the following information: - Name - Age - Are you married or single? - If you're married or in a relationship, is your partner willing to be interviewed? - What symptoms do you experience? When did they start? - If applicable, what condition have you been diagnosed with? When did you receive a diagnosis? How many health care providers did you visit before being diagnosed? - Have any treatments helped you? Is your vulvodynia better or worse? - How does vulvodynia or painful sex affect your life? - How has the condition affected your sex life, marriage or relationships? - Daytime phone number and e-mail address - Current photo (please attach) - Statement that you give NVA permission to forward your story and contact information to the show's producers. Please try to limit your summary to 1-2 paragraphs. Thu, 19 Nov 2009 15:55:38 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/39298-national-tv-show-seeking-women-to-share-stories#39298 Thu, November 19, 2009 3:40:54 PM From: National Vulvodynia Association -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Producers at a national television show are looking to interview married women who've been diagnosed with vulvodynia in the last six months. They'd also like to hear from single or married women who experience chronic painful sex but haven't been diagnosed. If you fit these criteria and are willing to share your story on national television, as soon as possible, please send an e-mail to chris@nva.org with the following information: - Name - Age - Are you married or single? - If you're married or in a relationship, is your partner willing to be interviewed? - What symptoms do you experience? When did they start? - If applicable, what condition have you been diagnosed with? When did you receive a diagnosis? How many health care providers did you visit before being diagnosed? - Have any treatments helped you? Is your vulvodynia better or worse? - How does vulvodynia or painful sex affect your life? - How has the condition affected your sex life, marriage or relationships? - Daytime phone number and e-mail address - Current photo (please attach) - Statement that you give NVA permission to forward your story and contact information to the show's producers. Please try to limit your summary to 1-2 paragraphs. Thu, 19 Nov 2009 15:55:32 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/39294-anal-sex#39296 Hi Violet Sunset, first of all did you seek counseling at a rape crisis center when that happened. If not you should do it now. If it is painful to attempt anal sex then you need to be examined by your doctor to see if there is physical inside damage which the doctor can treat. Thu, 19 Nov 2009 15:25:48 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/11-menopause-discussion/39290-hhs-sect-sebelius-on-breast-cancer-guidelines#39290 Health and Human Service Secretary Kathleen Sebelius issued the following statement today ( November. 18, 2009) on new breast cancer screening recommendations from the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force: “There is no question that the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force Recommendations have caused a great deal of confusion and worry among women and their families across this country. I want to address that confusion head on. The U.S. Preventive Task Force is an outside independent panel of doctors and scientists who make recommendations. They do not set federal policy and they don’t determine what services are covered by the federal government. “There has been debate in this country for years about the age at which routine screening mammograms should begin, and how often they should be given. The Task Force has presented some new evidence for consideration but our policies remain unchanged. Indeed, I would be very surprised if any private insurance company changed its mammography coverage decisions as a result of this action. “What is clear is that there is a great need for more evidence, more research and more scientific innovation to help women prevent, detect, and fight breast cancer, the second leading cause of cancer deaths among women. “My message to women is simple. Mammograms have always been an important life-saving tool in the fight against breast cancer and they still are today. Keep doing what you have been doing for years -- talk to your doctor about your individual history, ask questions, and make the decision that is right for you.” Wed, 18 Nov 2009 16:35:57 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/7-mens-sexual-health/39274-problem-having-erection-while-first-time-sex#39289 Some women think men should know everything about performance from the very first time , well its her first time also. It helps if you can talk about it and possibly ease your anxiety. Its not funny but a sense of humor could help. This does not sound like ED . Good luck. Wed, 18 Nov 2009 12:52:42 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/11-menopause-discussion/39286-new-mammography-guidelines#39286 Does anyone else find it difficult to keep up with the new guidelines for health screenings? Every week they seem to change. This past week, there was an important change we should all make note of regarding new mammography guidelines for breast cancer detection. The American Cancer Society has been recommending annual mammograms beginning at age 40. But, now a government panel of doctors and scientists claim getting screened for breast cancer so early and so often, may be harmful and may cause too many false alarms, unneeded biopsies without substantially improving a woman's odds of surviving the disease. We all know those false alarms can be stressful and scary. The new guidelines put out by the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force are for the general population of women (those at higher risk for breast cancer should have mammograms sooner and more often). But, for the general population: * Most women in their 40s should not routinely get mammograms * Women 50 to 74 should get a mammogram every other year until they turn 75, after which the risks and benefits are unknown. The American Cancer Society is still holding to their old guidelines. Confusing? Yes. So, who do you listen to? Do you agree with the new guidelines? For more information, the Red Hot Mamas discussed this topic in the November 2009 issue, which was released yesterday: http://www.redhotmamas.org ewsletters ewsletter_200911.html#A2 Wed, 18 Nov 2009 12:06:51 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/11-menopause-discussion/32383-keeping-your-distance-from-the-flu#39285 On Monday, the FDA approved an additional vaccine for H1N1: http://www.fda.gov/NewsEvents/Newsroom/PressAnnouncements/ucm190783.htm Has anyone received their flu shots? If so, did you have to wait for it to become available? Have you experienced any side effects? Wed, 18 Nov 2009 11:55:17 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/11-menopause-discussion/32360-the-doc-and-the-diva#39279 The Doc is on the move again! Red Hot Mamas' own, Dr. Mary Jane Minkin will be answering YOUR questions on national radio. Grab a cup of coffee and tune in on Thursday, December 3rd on SIRIUS Satellite Radio's Doctor Radio. WHO: Dr. Mary Jane Minkin and Dr. Nieca Goldberg WHAT: Myths and Interesting Facts About Perimenopause & Menopause WHEN: December 3, 2009; 6-7AM EST WHERE: SIRIUS 114 and XM 119 Feel free to call with your questions at 877-NYU_DOCS (698-3527) or email questions in advance to: docs@sirius-radio.com. For more information on Doctor Radio, visit their website: www.sirius.com/doctorradio. Tue, 17 Nov 2009 13:03:37 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/2-sexual-pain-disorder-and-gyn-topics/39271-botoxnerve#39271 I read that once botox is injected, the nerve needs to regenerate itself. Is this the pudendal nerve? What does this mean, is the nerve destroyed. Is the nerve as good before the injection as it is after? thank you Mon, 16 Nov 2009 10:56:49 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/2-sexual-pain-disorder-and-gyn-topics/39202-urogenital-triangle#39270 I read that once someone receives botox into the pelvic floor muscles, the pudendal nerve needs to regenerate, is this accurate? Does this effect the nerve? thank you Mon, 16 Nov 2009 10:53:29 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/2-sexual-pain-disorder-and-gyn-topics/19505-vestibulectomy?limit=15&start=180#39269 Hi Suffering, if you have not already read the older posts on this thread you should. There are posters who have had surgery and have tips on what they have experienced before during and after. Sun, 15 Nov 2009 13:04:07 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/11-menopause-discussion/32382-alleviate-hot-flashes#39260 Thank you for your advice in alleviating hot flashes. We are always interested to hear what works for women. Since each of us experience menopause in our own individual ways, your words of wisdom are truly appreciated. Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:02:21 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/11-menopause-discussion/32381-premarin-aamp-intercourse-and-oral-sex#39259 Dear Groovabenz, Thank you for logging onto Red Hot Mamas board. My advice would be to talk to your clinician. From what I know, the cream should not be used before engaging in oral sex, or intercourse, due to possible male absorption. However, usually after the first 24 hours, little cream remains, especially if you are using a smaller dose (0.5g). Larger quanties of cream could last longer in vaginal canal. Your clinician should counsel you as to timing of cream when engaging in sexual activities. Why not consider, if you know you are going to have sex on the weekends, using the cream on Thursday morning, just to be safe. All this should be discussed with your clinician. Hope is helps and please keep in touch with us. Karen Giblin Fri, 13 Nov 2009 21:46:35 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/2798-boyfriend-only-wants-oral?limit=15&start=15#39256 Just a brief note on the original post. Sounds like a very emotionally painful situation. I doubt very much that this is a medical problem, although a referral to an MD can't hurt. I wouldn't suggest a couples therapist, I would only trust a certified sex therapist to get to the bottom of this. It could be something idiosyncratic, and perhaps he would reveal what is going on to a sex therapist. I do wonder about his porn use. You might read Wendy and Larry Maltz's book The Porn Trap and see if anything in there rings true. He might be gay. Long term, this bodes poorly for the future sexual relationship between you, because he is unaffectionate, and he's sexually selfish, plain and simple. I suspect there is something important he is not telling you. But he might never tell you. And the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Aline Zoldbrod Ph.D. Thu, 12 Nov 2009 23:03:35 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/2-sexual-pain-disorder-and-gyn-topics/39252-nva-needs-your-participation-in-important-survey#39252 NVA Needs Your Participation in Important Survey NVA still needs 100 women to participate in our Cost of Illness Survey. Please help us collect this important information that we will use to encourage increased federal funding of vulvodynia research! If you live in the United States and have been diagnosed with either generalized vulvodynia or vulvar vestibulitis syndrome (aka provoked vestibulodynia), you are eligible to participate. Participation requires only 3 hours of your time over the next 6 months. With the use of a NVA-supplied calendar, you will keep track of your vulvodynia-related expenses, such as prescription medications, doctor visits and over-the-counter remedies. After enrolling, NVA will send you a complimentary copy of our self-help guide. After completing the study, NVA will provide you with a complimentary 1-year subscription to our newsletter. Thank you in advance! For additional information, or to participate, please visit: https://www.nva.org/costsurvey/index.html Wed, 11 Nov 2009 15:49:17 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/39246-testosterone-application-to-clitoris#39251 Oh, the gel. Yes, I think the reason they don't recommend using the gel on your genitals is because it contains alcohol and can be irritating. But perhaps you could ask your doctor for a cream to supplement the gel? I find it helpful. Wed, 11 Nov 2009 15:44:24 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/39250-nva-needs-your-participation-in-important-survey#39250 NVA Needs Your Participation in Important Survey NVA still needs 100 women to participate in our Cost of Illness Survey. Please help us collect this important information that we will use to encourage increased federal funding of vulvodynia research! If you live in the United States and have been diagnosed with either generalized vulvodynia or vulvar vestibulitis syndrome (aka provoked vestibulodynia), you are eligible to participate. Participation requires only 3 hours of your time over the next 6 months. With the use of a NVA-supplied calendar, you will keep track of your vulvodynia-related expenses, such as prescription medications, doctor visits and over-the-counter remedies. After enrolling, NVA will send you a complimentary copy of our self-help guide. After completing the study, NVA will provide you with a complimentary 1-year subscription to our newsletter. Thank you in advance! For additional information, or to participate, please visit: http://www.nva.org/costsurvey/index.html Wed, 11 Nov 2009 15:39:42 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/2-sexual-pain-disorder-and-gyn-topics/39243-seeking-a-specialist-in-los-angeles-area#39249 The NVA( National Vulvodynia Association) has a listing for doctors who treat these conditions. www,nva.org Wed, 11 Nov 2009 14:57:31 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/27-technical-support/12716-request-rss-feed-please#39239 I'm ok with the single feed, but it would be nice to have the option and others might want to only follow certain forums. Thanks! Tue, 10 Nov 2009 14:29:46 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/2-sexual-pain-disorder-and-gyn-topics/39216-vaginal-septum-a-sex#39217 Unfortunately having a vaginal septum can lead to Dyspareunia or painful sexual intercourse, due to medical or psychological causes (medical in your case). The reason for this is because it's as if you have two completely different vaginal canals sharing the space of one. The causes of dyspareunia are often reversible, even when long-standing, but self-perpetuating pain is a factor after the original cause has been removed. Extreme forms, in which the woman's pelvic floor musculature contracts involuntarily, is termed vaginismus. In severe cases of a vaginal septum, where dyspareunia is caused and sex is painful, surgery can be performed to simply remove the septum, recovery is typically between 4-6 weeks. This will be something that you'll want to discuss with your doctor during a follow-up visit. Sun, 08 Nov 2009 03:47:49 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/39205-womens-cream-study-via-indiana-u#39205 Women's Sexual Health Study A research team at Indiana University is recruiting adult women (18 and older) to participate in a study related to the use of creams during sexual activities that occur alone or with a partner. Many women use creams, oils or lubricants on their genitals during sexual activity alone or with a partner and for many different reasons related to pleasure, curiosity or novelty. Other women have never used such products during sexual activity that occurs alone or with a partner. The study that we are recruiting for, the Women’s Sexual Health Study, takes place entirely online. Women who participate in the study will receive two (2) bottles of creams and will be asked to use them during sexual activity that occurs alone or with a partner, and to respond to online questionnaires about their experiences using these creams. Please feel free to forward this email to colleagues, friends or members of your organization who may be interested in learning more about this study. Women who would like to read additional information about the study and decide whether they would like to participate can go to this web site: www.womenshealth.iu.edu If you have additional questions about the study, please feel free to send us an email at cshp@indiana.edu This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it . Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH Associate Director, Center for Sexual Health Promotion School of Health, Physical Education and Recreation Thu, 05 Nov 2009 19:28:54 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/39201-see-video-on-abc-show-re-vaginal-pain#39201 Vulvodynia Covered on ABC-7 in San Francisco Thu, November 5, 2009 4:55:34 PMFrom: National Vulvodynia Association View Contact -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Vulvodynia Covered on ABC-7 in San Francisco Dr. Jennifer Gunter, director of pelvic pain and vulvovaginal disorders at Kaiser Permanente San Francisco Medical Center, appeared on ABC-7 yesterday to spread awareness of conditions that cause painful intercourse. To view the segment, click on the link below. Remember to post a comment after you watch the segment. This demonstrates to the producers that vulvodynia is a topic that women want to hear about more often. Thanks! http://abclocal.go.com/kgo/story?section=view_from_the_bay/sex_relationships&id=7100875 Thu, 05 Nov 2009 17:26:36 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/39182-hpv-mid-life-crisis#39198 Barb,since you discribe your pain as in the vestibule area I am posting a link to an article by Dr. Andrew Goldstein that may help you . http://www.ourgyn.com/content/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=18&Itemid=73 Thu, 05 Nov 2009 14:57:12 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/2-sexual-pain-disorder-and-gyn-topics/39171-vaginal-pain#39184 You can try to use dilators first to help release the tense muscles. You can also try massaging the area with olive oil or your lubricant. But I would also mke sure it is no your lube which is irritating you. Finally, as the moderator stated, you should be evaluated by your gyn to rule out any issues. Wed, 04 Nov 2009 18:10:02 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/7217-zestra-vs-finally-a-other-sexual-health-products?limit=15&start=15#39181 That's because Finally uses menthol in their product which is what gives you those sensations, unfortunately the numbing is also a side-effect of the menthol. Wed, 04 Nov 2009 13:37:50 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/6-a-board-for-men-about-women/39175-girlfriend-no-longer-desires-sex-pain-a-stress#39176 Has your girlfriend been to see her Gyn to rule out any physical reason for low desire. Sometimes when there has been pain during intercourse the woman is very hesitant to try again.Ask her to see her Gyn and talk to the doctor about the lack of desire and the pain she has had. For more information please visit our website at www.ourgyn.com Tue, 03 Nov 2009 13:54:55 -0500 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/7-mens-sexual-health/39162-whats-new-drug-treatments-for-urinary-incontinence#39162 ** This thread discusses the content article: What's New: Drug Treatments for Urinary Incontinence (/incontinence/42) ** Sat, 31 Oct 2009 01:32:51 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/7-mens-sexual-health/39161-post-prostatectomy-incontinence-the-problems-and-solutions#39161 ** This thread discusses the content article: Post Prostatectomy Incontinence: The Problems and Solutions (/incontinence/37) ** Sat, 31 Oct 2009 01:32:29 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/7249-quality-of-sex-after-cervix-removal#7249 Prior to my hysterectomy I was told things how my cervix felt different than other women and sex with me was so great. Well, I had a hysterectomy 4 years back, I didn't know .. so I just said yes take the cervix as well. Ladies, now it crushed me to find out men view sex with me as no longer good, but down right terrible. No one ever wants to even have sex with me twice.I am a kinda beautiful woman with alot of self esteem and etc. Even drunk men arent interested. I didn't even realize to a male friend with benefits finally told me it doesnt feel good. Well its terrible. I had some instinct something was wrong before this. What do I do? What happened? My self esteem is crushed, I don't dare be intimate with anyone. What can I ask my doctor to "fix" or change. I had a "lift" done since I had 3 kids, at the same time. That was suppose to be so sexy to have a 20 year old private area again. But Nope. Please help this is an actual problem and I cannot find anything on this topic over the web. Wed, 28 Oct 2009 12:23:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/7-mens-sexual-health/31373-hes-26-im-40#31379 "Blondboy44, I would make a small but important correction to what you say above. True, most hot young honeys might not give you the time of day. But my point would be that there is still that rare hot young honey that would give you the time of day, and more. And if a hot young honey is REALLY what you want, you CAN have her." Patient, say where, say where, say where! Wed, 28 Oct 2009 04:03:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/7-mens-sexual-health/31370-please-help-ed-after-abstinence#31372 gcon, your diagnosis sounds correct. And what's ironic is that your reluctance to tell her you're a virgin probably comes from the same insecurity that is now contributing to your temporary ED. I think an important part of a relationship is establishing enough trust so that it feels safe to be honest about things like this. If you're going to try to appear invulnerable, maybe she will likewise feel less inclined to admit vulnerabilities of her own. Is there any risk in admitting to your inexperience -- yes, a small one. But you have to be willing to take small risks like this in a relationship. What's the worst that can happen? I don't think it's too late to make a full admission. Why do you feel that a man needs to always be more "experienced" than a woman, especially because you're younger. It's mathematically an absurd notion to begin with, as the amount of sexual experience of men and women has to be about the same -- every time a man is having sex, there's a woman having sex. And every time a man has a new partner, his partner is a woman for whom he is a new partner. So, the amount of sex and the number of different partners for men and women has to be about the same, on average. And an older person can be expected to have had more sex, regardless of gender. And I agree with the moderator. On the other side of that coin, many women are sick and tired of the kind of guy who comes on like he has all the experience in the world, especially if he has the attitude that there isn't anything new that she can teach him about sex and what matters to her. Mon, 26 Oct 2009 14:11:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/7-mens-sexual-health/31366-sex-drive#31369 both of you suggestion were great and i am generous for the feed back that yall have given i am very happy with my partner even though we may not be the same but you would want someone diffrent you wouldnt want anyone that just like you, cause it would defeat the purpose of being in a relationship but we have talked bout it and we seem to come to a understanding but thank u. Mon, 26 Oct 2009 07:54:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/2-sexual-pain-disorder-and-gyn-topics/24361-botox#24370 which muscles would most likely cause the urine to burn if they were in spasm? Mon, 26 Oct 2009 07:19:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/7-mens-sexual-health/30833-ed-whats-normal-in-mid-thirties-#30841 Well, malemember, your phrase "...why ED can be so devastating to men" might be a clue to your problem, along with the fact that you get spontaneous erections and morning erections. Nothing produces ED as quickly as anxiety, including anxiety about getting ED. Including being anxious about getting anxious because you know anxiety will produce ED. It's easier said than done, but you need to focus on what turns you on (your partner), not your penis (unless that by itself turns you on). Sun, 25 Oct 2009 17:23:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/2116-my-girlfriend-doesnt-want-to-have-sex#2122 hey saoirse, I think what ur saying is totally right... I have the same problem currently and My gf and I been dating for 5 years... living together for 2 years... lately she just sayd that whenever I we have sex, she feels like she is just servicing me... and also she started to dress up a lot whenever we go to school because she says that she wants to look still attractive to other people. I know she only loves me, but of course this situation is hard to put back on the right track... confused and just trying to put some distance between us now, and only try to see her when I actually have a romantic plan for us... hope this helps.. Sun, 25 Oct 2009 08:34:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/13024-21-with-no-sex-drive#13024 I am 21, I do have an anxiety disorder, which I was told can affect my sex drive. However, I dont really feel turned on ever, I dont get really wet, even with just myself. Its always been a bit of an issue when it comes to sex and its getting to the point of just being frusterated.. Does anyone have any suggestions or etc.? Very much appreciated thank you! Sun, 25 Oct 2009 04:53:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/2-sexual-pain-disorder-and-gyn-topics/24376-recent-outcomes-research-on-vestibulectomies-andor-othe#24376 Hi, I'm looking for recent outcomes research on surgical procedures for VVS that differentiates between the extensiveness of the procedures, e.g., partial vestibulectomy vs. full vestibulectomy without removing glands vs. removing glands, etc. In particular, there seems to be some controversy over the risks/benefits of removing Batholin's glands, and I am curious what research has been done to examine this issue. Additionally, I am interested in long term findings, e.g., pain resolution at 3+ years post-op, and info on the impact of the surgery on women's health down the road,e.g.,as they enter menopause, etc. Can't find much. Please help! Sat, 24 Oct 2009 19:02:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/7-mens-sexual-health/31202-kegels-giving-less-control#31204 When you say 'you lost control' are you referring to urine, that you leak, or are you referring to orgasm, that you can't hold back. If it is urinary leaking with coughing, sneezing, running, etc, than doing both the slow and the fast kegels should help. if it you are referring to orgasm/climax, then you need to do more relaxation exercises: breathing with pelvic floor relaxation, rather than tightening the muscles more. Your muscles and nerves may be experiencing hypersensitivity, so you need to calm them down. My book goes over some relaxation techniques. Sat, 24 Oct 2009 18:14:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/2-sexual-pain-disorder-and-gyn-topics/19977-scaredclitoris-nerve-injury?limit=15&start=45#20029 Are you seeing a physical therapist? If not, you should get evaluated, b/c they will help you to getting back to where you want to be. Sat, 24 Oct 2009 18:04:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/2-sexual-pain-disorder-and-gyn-topics/18937-recovery-after-vestibulectomy?limit=15&start=30#18976 sounds more like a blood flow issue or a compression irritation, if it gets worse when you sit. If that is the case then you probably need physical therapy. it is important to get evaluated by a PT or a healthcare provider that specializes in pelvic pain, before you make any decisions. amy Sat, 24 Oct 2009 18:00:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/2-sexual-pain-disorder-and-gyn-topics/24374-would-you-like-to-be-interviewed-for-a-new-book#24374 posted 10-23-2009 10:33 PM -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Interviews Needed for New Book From: "National Vulvodynia Association" Drs. Andrew Goldstein, Caroline Pukall and Irwin Goldstein, along with medical journalist Debra Gordon, are writing a book for women who experience painful sex. If you are interested in being interviewed, please send an e-mail to Ms. Gordon debra@debragordon.com (mailto:debra@debragordon.com) and answer the following questions. Your name will be kept confidential. 1.Briefly describe your personal experience. - When did your pain begin? - What symptoms did you have? How does your pain feel now? - When did you seek help? - How many doctors did you visit? What did they tell you? - How were you finally diagnosed? 2.How has the pain affected your relationship with your partner(s)? 3.What treatments have you tried and how well have they worked? 4.What advice would you give to other women who are experiencing painful sex? -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | Sat, 24 Oct 2009 09:12:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/5056-are-you-interested-in-sharing-your-story-for-a-new-book#5056 Interviews Needed for New Book From: "National Vulvodynia Association" Drs. Andrew Goldstein, Caroline Pukall and Irwin Goldstein, along with medical journalist Debra Gordon, are writing a book for women who experience painful sex. If you are interested in being interviewed, please send an e-mail to Ms. Gordon debra@debragordon.com and answer the following questions. Your name will be kept confidential. 1.Briefly describe your personal experience. - When did your pain begin? - What symptoms did you have? How does your pain feel now? - When did you seek help? - How many doctors did you visit? What did they tell you? - How were you finally diagnosed? 2.How has the pain affected your relationship with your partner(s)? 3.What treatments have you tried and how well have they worked? 4.What advice would you give to other women who are experiencing painful sex? Fri, 23 Oct 2009 18:33:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/7-mens-sexual-health/31187-guys-whats-a-normal-sexual-relationship#31193 Not sure about the "reactive libido" diagnosis. I think he probably masturbated a lot instead of setting himself up for rejection with you in the past. In general, I would give the advice to wives to be very careful about repeatedly turning down their husbands sexually, especially a husband with a high physical sex drive. Speaking from personal experience, what happens is that the negative reinforcement leads to a situation where his wife appears less and less sexually exciting, even though she is still attractive. Eventually she becomes like a sister -- the husband can see that she is attractive, but he feels no turn-on or attraction for her specifically. But -- and this is the important part -- in my case it did not lessen my attraction to other women, because I had not experienced the negative reinforcement with them. As for as men slowing down at the young age of 40, I say baloney. If he doesn't smoke or drink heavily, eats well, keeps his weight in the healthy range, and gets plenty of exercise, there shouldn't be any significant slowdown issues in his 40's. Fri, 23 Oct 2009 18:00:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/6219-hear-dr-goldstein-speak-on-sexual-pain#6219 Hear Dr. Goldstein speak About Sexual Pain You can hear Dr. Andrew Goldstein's entire presentation earlier this month to the North American Menopause Society on the topic “When Sex Hurts: Evaluation & Management of Dyspareunia†Fri, 23 Oct 2009 10:07:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/2-sexual-pain-disorder-and-gyn-topics/24373-hear-dr-goldstein-speak-about-sexual-pain#24373 You can hear Dr. Andrew Goldstein's entire presentation earlier this month to the North American Menopause Society on the topic “When Sex Hurts: Evaluation & Management of Dyspareunia†Fri, 23 Oct 2009 09:49:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/6679-47-and-all-of-a-sudden-my-wife-is-very-sexually-247#6684 You say he almost always has an orgasm, perhaps your increased libido has overwhelmed him.Hopefully he is in good health but he might want to have his testosterone level checked.Have you told him you would like him to be more agressive in lovemaking. Sometimes you just have to tell them what you need. Fri, 23 Oct 2009 05:31:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/2-sexual-pain-disorder-and-gyn-topics/24371-vestibulectomy#24372 pedsrntobe,go to the search button at the top of this page , type in Vestibulectomy and" all open forums". That will bring up posts from those who either have had a vestibulectomy or are thinking of having the operation. That will give you some good information . Also here is a link to an article by Dr. Andrew Goldstein about treatments. http://www.ourgyn.com/content/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=18&Itemid=73 (http://www.ourgyn.com/content/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=18&Itemid=73:yqf49o33) Thu, 22 Oct 2009 10:49:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/7-mens-sexual-health/31359-sex-vs-sensible#31365 Thank you to patient and BlondBoy44 for your comments. I found them kind and helpful. Thu, 22 Oct 2009 10:03:00 -0400 http://www.hisandherhealth.com/sexual-health-bulletin-boards/1-womens-sexual-health/460-fish-oil-and-menstrual-bleeding#463 I'm 48, and I started taking one fish oil capsule per day after the New York Times reported various health benefits. At the end of the month, my period lasted for 10 days! Scary. I stopped taking the fish oil, and my flow returned to normal to next month, and has remained normal since. So beware of the side-effects of supplements. In my case, the blood-thinner impact of fish oil was very obvious, even at a low dose. Thu, 22 Oct 2009 05:51:00 -0400