His and Her Health

I am 20 years old and I have a GF and I can have sex only when I pleasure her first, like I have to be physically pleasuring her before I even start getting hard...then if she says something like go lock the door then my erection goes away. It also is only sometimes that I get a full erection, usually it feels weak( to me, not to her apparently). I also have never orgasmed during oral sex. never. I am wondering whats wrong with me...growing up I was homeschooled and very sheltered and went through a very traumatic experience involving "playing doctor" when i was very young...I got my sex ed through my stepmom cussing at me saying i was a little pervert. for what? not knowing what sex was? being curious? I am worried that because of all that my mind is somehow wired to think sex is wrong or something...and its depressing. I eat healthy and am in great shape. Please someone contribute advice.

Thank you

Relax, some of your problems are just preformance anxiety. You are only 20. You have had some past trauma and if that still bothers you see if you can get counselling. You know that you can be pleasured by your GF too , not just you doing foreplay to her.

Thnks..and I know I can be pleasured by her....but it just doesnt 'feel' that good...

I prolly will go get counseling....