His and Her Health

I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions or think that this is crazy. My boyfriend cant stay hard or even get off by me. He is fine when he is alone of looking at my picture but not when i am around do you think something is wrong with me or him?

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Hey,

There's nothing wrong with you. Your boyfriend probably has anxiety issues and is nervous when he know he is going to fool around with you. This causes "nothing" to happen. When he's by himself there is no stress, so he can easily get it up.

I've had this problem too and I found what worked for me was to be really relaxed with him. Try playing with his equipment using your hands or mouth for a while to get him going instead of jumping right into sex.

I don't know if this is similar, but my new partner seems a little flimsy. He tells me he's turned on by me during sex, but to me, because he's somewhat flimsy, it's hard to believe him. Does anyone know why this happens? I'm starting to feel like he's not attracted to me. And because we just started going out, I feel like it's too soon to talk to him about these types of issues. Thanks in advance.

I really don't think it has anything to do with you and it's not fair to put it on you, that's terrible for your self esteem... This is a common problem, he just needs to get over it and go in an get seen by a Dr. It might be the symptom of a bigger problem.