His and Her Health

I HAVE THE PROBLEM OF BLEEDING DURING AND/OR AFTER SEX, MY HUSBAND REALLY IS UPSET BY THIS AND THINKS HE IS DOING SOMETHING TO HURT ME. I AM NOT ON THE PILL AND HAVENT BEEN FOR 10 YEARS. I ALSO AM NOT A REAL FAN LIKE MOST WOMEN OF THE GYN. SO I DONT GO LIKE I SHOULD. 18 MONTHS AGO I DID GO AND HAD A FULL REALM OF TEST, I HAD AN INTERNAL SONOGRAM, MY FIRST MAMOGRAM AND THE REG. PAPSMEAR ETC. THE PAP CAME BACK WITH ABNORMAL CELLS AND WAS REDONE. THE SECOND ONE CAME BACK FINE. <P>MY QUESTION I GUESS IS NOW WHAT DO I DO? IS IT IMPERATIVE THAT I SEE A DOCTOR IMMEDIATELY? PLEASE HELP!<P>THANK YOU

Yes, you need to see a doctor immediately. Bleeding during and after intercourse regularly can be a sign of many things, from an STD to cancer, and you're simply not going to know until you get it checked out. Your pap coming back with dysplasia. i.e. abnormal, means you should be extra cautious. Yes, the second one came out alright, but paps aren't 100% accurate in diagnosing problems. Since you're first one came back abnormal, you need to be even more serious about making sure you get them done annually. <P>I dislike dentists, but I want to keep my teeth, so I go. I dislike working out, but I don't want the health problems of being overweight, so I do. I dislike my job some of the time, but want to feed myself so I go to work. Life isn't always about what we like or don't like, it's about doing what's necessary. None of us like the doctor, gyn or otherwise. What you need to decide is if your health--and possibly your life--is worth dealing with 30 minutes of something you dislike once a year. If it's not, then don't go to the gyn.