His and Her Health

I am a 24 year old female who has NEVER reached orgasm through oral sex. However, I can reach orgasm through vaginal penatration. Is this noraml? Can I be helped or any suggestions?<P>------------------<BR>Janelle

Just have a glass of wine and keep trying. There's nothing wrong with you if you're having orgasms at all. Maybe he's not putting his all and you need to guide him. Some guys don't really know what they're doing at first and you must communicate. If he loves you, he will then appreciate the tenderness of a woman.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by Joseph Mario:<BR><B>Just have a glass of wine and keep trying. There's nothing wrong with you if you're having orgasms at all. Maybe he's not putting his all and you need to guide him. Some guys don't really know what they're doing at first and you must communicate. If he loves you, he will then appreciate the tenderness of a woman.</B></font><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><BR>Good Idea but I am still worried. It's not just him. It's EVERY man I have been with. It just doesnt excite me. Am I normal?<P>

Maybe it's just not your thing. Some women use oral sex as a prelude to penetration and like to finish there. It sounds like you're fine. Try some of the other boards because there are a lot of knowlegable responding people who may have better advise than me.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by Joseph Mario:<BR><B>Maybe it's just not your thing. Some women use oral sex as a prelude to penetration and like to finish there. It sounds like you're fine. Try some of the other boards because there are a lot of knowlegable responding people who may have better advise than me.</B></font><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Mr. Mario is right. It may not be your thing. But, as a woman, I remember that it took a few times to relate coming to having someone's face down there. It did not happen right away. But, once my body started to relate oral sex with coming I couldn't unlearn it! That is for sure. I remember that though. At first it felt almost nonsexual. Then I just started using whomever without any self consciousness. I say, "using", with humour. But, it is sort of like that. Women have to stop thinking so much about how it is sort of,"bad", and start liking that it is! That took me a while. It took several times. I remember that I had to think of it sexually deliberately. It is just like learning any new way to come. Now, I totally love that way, it is intense in a way that nothing else is. Every way of coming has it's own pleasure.<P><P>------------------<BR>poppykrause

Some women orgasm only via internal stimulation. I am one of those, and you may be another. I don't orgasm via oral sex, either, but do orgasm via intercourse. There is nothing wrong with you. Depending on the study you look at, somewhere between 35-35% of women orgasm via internal stimulation/penetration.<P>Many women actually think something is "wrong" with them because they can't orgasm via penetration. There is no "correct" way to orgasm. We are all different, and having one type of orgasm is just like being a particular height--it's not right or wrong, it's just how your body is. Enjoy what you have! Lots of women can't orgasm at all, and those with clitoral orgasms only often spend a lot of time pursuing vaginal orgasms. <P>If you want to orgasm during oral sex, have your parnter use his fingers or a dildo/vibrator inside you at the same time. For many women, this makes orgasm even more intense.

Poppy, women Should not have to feel guilty about oral S'x. aS a man, I love to give woman Such pleasureS, I love their Smell, their taste and juSt doing it. even if the woman cant get there, juSt enjoy the love making. donna'S SuggeStion was really good and can be very e'xploSive. (my keyboard iS meSSed up.)

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by Joseph Mario:<BR><B>Poppy, women Should not have to feel guilty about oral S'x. aS a man, I love to give woman Such pleasureS, I love their Smell, their taste and juSt doing it. even if the woman cant get there, juSt enjoy the love making. donna'S SuggeStion was really good and can be very e'xploSive. (my keyboard iS meSSed up.)</B></font><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>All I am saying is that it did take me a little while to learn to come that way. For me it was a little hard to have someone staring up at you at first and also I just didn't know how and had to physically learn. The fingers thing is a good idea. Also when you do come he can feel it so easily that way, can feel every little thing. It is important to be clean though. It is just polite to have good hygiene, man or woman. There is a difference between clean sex smells and having bad hygiene! I think some women are afraid to just use their hands to clean themselves with lots of soap and water. I will do gymnastics to make sure water and soap have gotten everywhere they need to. I wonder if some women don't take that time because I have had men complain to me about some women's smell. So, Mr. Mario, while clean smells are OK being dirty isn't! And, my other point to the woman trying to orgasm easily from oral sex is that it didn't just happen for me but now my body's response is pavlovian! I love it! So, don't give up just do what feels good. Grab his head and show him what feels good. Don't be shy! And, if it still doesn't happen, just feel lucky that you have orgasms the way you do. So many women don't have orgasms at all from what I understand. But, when I hear that I can't help but think that they just haven't figured out how yet.<P><P>------------------<BR>poppykrause

Poppy, First of all, women are beautiful. It's hard not to look. It turns me on to watch her expressions. Letting me know I'm on tract. 2nd, I would never be with a woman with bad hygiene. I was refering to a clean natural smell. If there is a problem, that's where communication comes in. Let your partner know what you like and dislike. I know I would. And so the bottom line is your right. I totally agree. It feels great for both partners. Jump in the tub,then go at it. lol lol.<p>[This message has been edited by Joseph Mario (edited 09 March 2004).]