His and Her Health

Hi, well thankyou for your letter you are a very great help!!!! Yes i did have my thyroid cheked a few times and everything is good so its me... I wished i never had hurt my leg back in the late 90's this is where i started to gain my weight back, I do get upset with myself big time i was down in the dumps cryed alot from adding on the pounds..sometimes i feel that i'm just to old to lose weight But then i say to myself thats a cop out i just dont want to face the fact that i need to start all over again with the weight... I put in my head this is the only thing that will change the way i feel about myself and change my sex life..I need to lose 40lbs to get to my goal and i will do it!!!! I have been losing inches but not weight and i dont understand this at all.. I hope soon i will see a difference I want to make my life better for myself then what it is as in weight problem i've had this problem on and off in my life But I know what i can be so i need to do this for myself and for my Hubby <P><BR> Thanks again for your help,<P> sunshinerise

Youyr totally welcome. And it isn't TOO LATE I'm past 50 and I look better than I have ever looked. it is normal to lose inches if you are working out without losing pounds. You have heard it before and it is true Muscle weighs more than fat. Also if you have had weight on for a long time your bones adjust by becoming heavier I went right threw the size 8 stage when I was younger but I'm an 8 now at the weight I was when I wore a size 12 in my twenties. The other pitfall to avfoiud is becoming WEIGHT and FOOD OBSESSED when you weigh yourself all the time and are constantly thinking about your next meal and what you are going to eat. For me Atkins works because I don't have to think about it much, I couldn't managfe DIETS where you weigh or measure food or had to eat certain things at certain times or required an advanced degree in mathematics to understand. Anyway any time you need encourgeament I'm here!

Sunshinerise, I think before you said you needed to lose 50 pounds. Way to go on losing 10! It takes a while to lose weight in a healthy way. <P>I am trying so hard to lose weight. Ever since having blood work done, I have no appetite, and I don't know why. I will eat, like, 1-2 servings of fruit and have a glass of milk and will not want any more food until supper! Or, I'll have like crackers and cheese or some soup, and again, not hungry until supper! And I don't eat a whole lot at supper, either. I know I should not be further cutting down my food intake, but I can't help it, I'm just not hungry. As it is, I eat very little. I know in the past I've done much worse with my diet. I can't even get enough servings of food into a day! I am so far below the amount of calories a sedentary woman should have, and I am not sedentary! I am semi-active, though not as active as I could be. I am afraid of getting another back injury (since my last two back injuries were from WALKING). I do a lot of yard work and house work, and have such a low food intake, I know I should be losing, but am just happy I am not GAINING! Actually, I was weighed at school as 226, and when I went to the doctor, I was 225! Maybe I actually DID lose a pound, but I can't help contributing that to just a difference in the scales. I don't trust my own scale. It is always a bit low. It now says I weigh 219 (as of yesterday), and I feel like, "If only!" I don't look as bad as this sounds. I just look like I could work out some more but I do not look obese at all. I don't even look very overweight! People will even tell me I'm "skinny," but I think they are comparing me to obese people. The thing is, my breasts are so huge that it makes the rest of me look tiny. I sometimes joke with my husband, you know, like burritos as big as your head, "Breasts as big as your head!" <P>My bust-hip ratio is almost perfect. They match almost completely. And my waist-to-hip ratio looks great, too. I'm proportional, and maybe that's why I don't look so big. Maybe if I'm proportional, all I really need to do is tone up? Does that sound right? Can I be 225 pounds, proportional, toned, and therefore be healthy? I just don't know. Well, it's a bit of a tangent. I know I was around 210 a year ago. I hate that I gain weight even eating less than the average diet. But at least I am not gaining now! <P>I like your outlook, Siren, and hope to some day agree with it. For now, though, I see these little skinny people eating so much food, and it bothers me. They can eat so much, and if I ate that much I would gain weight, and I feel like people look at me in the restaurants and think, "She shouldn't eat, she's fat." Although I don't normally feel bad about my looks, except where I have fat deposits (stomach, abs, upper arms, back, and chin), and really I think only my stomach and abs are in bad shape, I get down about shopping because so many clothes won't fit over my breasts. I have broad shoulders, and so much just won't fit over them. I wish I was that little 163-pound thing again, like when I was starving. Oh, I looked so good! And I'm only an impossible 62 pounds from that. <P>I actually have a really great body image most of the time, at least according to the transcript of the Berman show on body image. I have a great body image for a woman. Women have TERRIBLE body images. I have NO PROBLEM with my body so far as my husband goes, and usually no problem except that I wish my stomach and abs were smaller. But then I get on the scale, or I go shopping, and it gets me down, but then I blame the fashion industry, that does not cater to unusual body types. I'm tall, and I'm large-boned, and I have large breasts, and hey, that's me. And if they don't make clothes that will fit me, well, that's their problem. I see fat women all the time, and they can find clothes. I don't look fat, so how come I can't? That's how I often feel. Well, maybe it's because of the style of clothes I like. <P>Well, enough rambling. I have more posts to get to.