His and Her Health

I'm sorry, I just fournd this site and am looking for an answer on another question - maybe an answer from a husband. After seven years of marriage, my husband has fnally admitted that he has a Madonna/whore problem. Is there someway to help him see me as a wife and that it's not "dirty" to want to have sex w/ me? Also, he is on an antidepressent and can't cum anymore. I don't know what to do without insulting him. Any help would be great.

I'm a woman, but people tell me I regard sex from "the male perspective" more than the female so maybe I can help. First, the anti- depressant. Get him to a doctor. Check the dosage (may be too high), have sex before he takes it (if he takes it at night), or try a different prescription. No one should have to suffer like that.<BR>As for the Madonna/Whore thing, most men have it, just don't admit it. My own dear hubby was confused after witnessing me give birth and breastfeed--I still can't get his attention while I'm wearing that particular nightshirt. I've always lived by this motto: To keep your man truely happy you must be a lady in the parlor, a chef in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom. Let him know that once the bedroom door is closed and locked, you are there for his pleasure and nothing else matters (unless, of course, the kids start crying). Never ever use sex as a bargaining tool and never hold out to punish him. No kidding. It works for us. Just don't let him get stupid. The other problem may be due to him stressing about his torn emotions, too. Let me know if this helps.

Hoody, I completely agree with MaryLN. You have to let the bedroom be for bedroom fun and sleeping! Now don't get me wrong, nothing shakes a man more than seeing his wife girlfriend pleasure herself on the couch (done mostly for his entertainment). That can change any man!!! As far as getting him to change his mind about the way he feels the best thing you can do is show him that you are a wife and a mother and you are also a whore!!(face it, we all are to one degree or the other) <P> Most of the time it happens when a man has an exteemly close relationship with his mother. For example, Elvis had the same problem. Pricilla(*sp) has been quoating as saying that she could count on one hand the number of times she and he had sex after their daughter was born(exactly 9 months after they were married) It was because he could not handle the idea of having sex with a mother, not after ther relationship he had with is own. I am not trying to discourage you, I am just letting you know that there is a clinical name for it(I just don't know what it is) <P> You could try shaking things up and let him see that you are the wife and the mother but you can also be the whore or slut he wants or needs in the bedroom. You know what he likes. For example, my hubby enjoys seeing me maturbate so when he is lacking in his husbandly duties, I simply "take matters into my own hands" soon he sees that he is missing out on something that can be great and he is more than willing to join!!!! It works every time! A girlfriend ofmine rents adult movies! That works for her husband and her so that is what she does. Put no shame in your game honey! If you are horney and he is giving it up, become more agressive!! Men love that.<BR> I hope this helps and good luck and Godspeed! Angela<P>

This is worth trying!!! I finally got a sitter and went on a "date" with my DH. I wore a tight sweater and long flowing skirt. The movie was terrible (he enjoyed it though). Halfway through and dying of boredom, I excused myself to the restroom, took off my panties and put them in my purse. (I've always wanted to do that, and since there was a total of 6 people in the entire theater, it wasn't so risky.) Very well worth it! He went crazy. I thought he'd give us away. He didn't even mind stopping by the grocery store for milk on the way home. Just remember--long flowing skirt (so no one else can tell) and a bad movie (less people).