His and Her Health

I have been dating my b/f for over a year now and just started to have sex. My question is 'Why after sex, I become quiet, or my mood just changes?'<BR>'I'm not to experienced in the sex field, but is sex supposed to feel good all the way through? I mean i can feel it but yet i can't, it's just slippery really, than it starts to feel good toward the end when i orgasm. Is this normal? <BR>Thank you

It can feel good all the way through, but for me, it's more emotional. I feel connected and intimate with my partner. <BR>I have never orgasmed, but I've been very close, and it takes me a while to get there.<BR>Yeah, it just seems slippery and wet until you start to enjoy it. But during that time, try focusing on your boyfriend while you try to get "up there." My husband and I have a lot of foreplay and focus mainly on me because it takes me so long. Then when we get to the act itself, I'm practically there.<BR>For me, sex was an acquired taste. While the newness was fun, I didn't derive much pleasure from it. But it can be enjoyed, so don't get discouraged.<BR>Knowing that my husband is the only one who I'm that intimate with and vice versa, really makes it special and fun. We're the only ones that get to have that. So, focusing on the itimacy in the meantime might keep you from being distracted by the slippery and wet feelings.<BR>Have fun!<p>[This message has been edited by Hollywood (edited 10 August 2002).]

It is hard to tell whether you're having a problem or not. I felt the same way the first time I had sex. "Wasn't I supposed to feel something? Guess I'm just not used to it yet, don't know what I'm supposed to be feeling for." Well, time went on and for me things got worse and worse. As the newness wore off, it became harder and harder to get aroused, and then I started having pain, and did for nearly a year (undiagnosed bladder infection). Now, I still have poor sensation, just as poor as the first time, only now I also can't get aroused very easily, and lose my arousal easily. I've never had an orgasm, and my desire for sex has been low most of my life (I used to want to NEVER have sex, back when I was in Jr. High and high school. I wanted to marry an impotent guy and we could adopt some kids. Boy is that ever abnormal!)<P>Anyway, if you're enjoying sex, you're not feeling pain or frustration, then it's not a problem. If you're unsatisfied, then it's a problem. Every women is different. "One woman's dream orgasm is another woman's inadequate orgasm." For me, ANY orgasm would be nice, or not even orgasm--any satisfying sensation at all is great, as long as it doesn't leave me frustrated. Sexual dysfunction is a very personal thing. Are you happy with it?