His and Her Health

Hi,<P>Thanks for the reply. I realized that i was able to have better sex and be able to feel it. And yes i am now satisfied. The things about not wanted sex or anything and adopting children. I was the same way. <BR>You said you never had an orgasm. I may be able to help you.<BR>The things i realize that help me are.....<BR>RELAXING, I had such a hard time becoming relaxed. When i did..i was more into it because i could feel it more.<BR>Another is focusing more on him.(Thanks to Hollywood) I tried this. I found i felt more of him, was focusin on what he was doing, and thinking of just him and what he was doing with me. Instead of 'what do i have to do at home' (lol) kinda thing.<BR>There was really a differance. <BR>Hope I helped

Thanks for the suggestions. I have tried relaxing and clearing my mind, but it's hard to clear my mind since one, I have ADD, which means my thoughts are constantly all over the place, and two, I have learned to distance myself from sex, to "go somewhere else," and this is due to my early experiences, which were not something I wanted to happen, so I just pretended they weren't. Even when I do focus on the sensation, or on my H, or on just one thought and hang onto that thought, it doesn't help. There are almost no sensations to focus on. They're just not there, and that is a form of arousal disorder. I think that the reason I can't have orgasms is because I can't get aroused enough to. If I'm not aroused, how am I supposed to get a release from my intense arousal? Thanks for the thoughts, though, and maybe they'll help somebody else. My problem with orgasm is I just can't build up enough tension to be released.