His and Her Health

Hi all I think i have the answer to my low sex drive might sound crazy but it hit me lastnight... ok I was fine all day my hubby and i made a date in the bedroom well when the time was getting closer to meeting each other i started to feel symptoms of a bladder infection, I was feeling burning, pain in the ureathra feeling of my bladder was full and wasnt just had went to the bathroom before as i was told to do this by a dr to empty my bladder before and after intercourse that has helped big time!!! Its like my body shuts off the good feeling of enjoyment and FEAR bladder infections How can i get over this fear???? who can i talk to that would help me????<P><BR> Thanks for the help<P> sunshinerise

This sounds a lot to my like vulvodynia. I mean, you are fearing getting an infection and as a result you shut off the good feelings. You are blocking them out. At least I think that's what you're saying. So, with vulvodynia, it's largely the same: you are afraid, so you contract your muscles, and then you can't have sex...but with you, sex is possible, just not pleasurable. Is this what you're saying? In that case, maybe a councilor of some sort would help? <P>I think I have a similar problem, because I had a bladder infection for at least 11 months. It started out with minor pain in G-spot stimulating possitions, but as it got more and more severe, ALL sex was painful. It was horrible! I thought I had uternine fibroids, but it was just a severe bladder infection! And ever since then, my arousal hasn't been like it was before. I am not consciously anticipating pain, but I remember all the pain. And so I don't get aroused enough for sex much of the time. I used to get physically aroused easily, I wouldn't feel much, but I would have an expanded vagina with plenty of lubrication. Now, it doesn't happen like that. Much of the time, I don't get aroused enough. <P>We all have our different ways of coping with fear of pain. Maybe we all need councilors for this! Hope this helps.

ARON,<P> Hi, i just read what u wrote yes i am going to talk to this lady that my Hubby and i talk to shes threw the va hope she can help i dont have insurance waiting to see if i can get it threw va it takes up to 90days before i hear from them....<P>I think your right in what u said and thats where all my pain is in the G-spot even when its touched to much i feel like i need to use the bathroom do u feel the same way??? I had a bladder problem for a yr...<P> please write back

It makes MOST women feel like the need to pee when they have their G-spot stimulated. But, with most, this sensation passes and then it's pleasurable.<P>When I first got my bladder infection, I got pain with the possition where my husband was on a chair and I was on his lap facing him. That had been my favorite possition, since I actually FELT something when I was in it, but we stopped that (much to my disappointment) when it started hurting.<P>You might have a urethra or bladder problem still. You seem to be saying you are? What problem do you have? Has it been recurring, or just constant? Mine was constant (it hurt every time I had sex) and got progressively worse until I finally just HAD to go to the doctor!<P>I don't know if this will help at all, but since in women everything is all close to each other, you may have just discovered the cause of at least some of your problems. Get that bladder checked out! Find out if there is any urethral or bladder damage or infection or anything, and what you can do about it. Isn't it funny how, over time, you eventually figure out when things started, and can trace it back through the past?