His and Her Health

How do you/they do it? How do you/they have intercourse with someone you/they don't know or particularly like? (ok, I'll stick to "they" from now on).<P>Do they have a particularly high libido? Are they capable of arousal on demand? <P>Are they able to have intercourse without natural lubrication? What do they do to solve the problem of lubrication? KY? Astroglide? Play with themselves first? How do they get lubricated enough to have intercourse if they don't have a particularly high libido?<P><BR>As one with no libido, I would like reader's feedback on this.I cannot for the life of me imagine how it is possible for a woman to have intercourse at the drop of a hat with strangers, some of whom must, surely, be completely unattractive to her.<P>I find myself unable to fully articulate my questions even. But I am very curious.

Pinky, I don't think you will get too many responses to your question. I have a feeling that most sex workers are able to do their job simply by detaching themselves from it all, to sort of numb themselves. The last thing they would do is frequent an FSD board.<P>And I suppose there are a few who truly enjoy their work. I don't think they'd be here either.

I have been trying to locate other discussion groups where I could post the same question. I found one suitable one and posted my questions there, but it doesn't seem to be a very high-traffic one.

Ok. So they can numb themselves. But do you think they can they produce their own natural lubrication by numbing themselves?

Not speaking for experience here, but I would think to lubricate themselves they would have to think of something or someone that is attractive to them or turns them on. Pretend they are with someone they really do find attractive, and just hope they don't scream the wrong name.

Male sex workers may have to do that, but female sex workers I'm relatively sure just use some sort of lube, if that. After enough work, uncomfortable tightness is not going to be an issue.

Their are also lubricants that act as numbing agent. Theoretically, most sex workers have their clients use condoms, so they could themselves use these lubricants to ease any physical discomfort.

I am wondering about how these ladies managed 100 years ago, when there was no KY or Astroglide and no lubricated condoms...

There have almost always been lubricants around. Aloe vera was commonly used in the middle ages. Saliva, of course, has always been there and still remains very popular today. This doesn't take care of the arousal issues, but since most men don't understand the arousal of a woman (speaking in physical terms of what happens), they wouldn't know if she was "tight" or just simply not aroused. Sex didn't need to be comfortable or pleasurable for a woman, she just had to be able to act. Like all jobs, she was doing it for money. There are days none of us like work, but get paid to act like we're happy if we're in customer service. Also, most prostitutes in former eras were also entertainers, working in brothels or bars. They frequently drank to excess while entertaining costumers, and this could be factor in loosening their inhibitions or at least making the idea more palatable.<P>In case anyone is wondering, I belong to a living history group and my husband spent many years living in and researching several cultures. This type of thing comes up occasionally.<P>

Thank you all. That was very interesting.

As with any group of people in any job or avocation, I suspect not everybody is in it for the same reason. I'd guess most of them are detached, and many have a history of sexual abuse. A few of them have extraordinary libidos, but most don't.<P>As for the most frequent request, it's probably not intercourse.<P>And what they used in the past for lubrication? Probably the same as what married people used who had trouble lubricating long ago.<P>It's kind of like, not all lawyers are in it just for the money, which may surprise some people. There's a variety of people in any job. <p>[This message has been edited by patient (edited 18 June 2003).]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by patient:<BR>[B]As with any group of people in any job or avocation, I suspect not everybody is in it for the same reason. I'd guess most of them are detached, and many have a history of sexual abuse. A few of them have extraordinary libidos, but most don't."<P><BR>I've read quite a few different studies over the years which concluded that between 90 and 95% of sex workers had been sexualized in some way as children. This made sense to me, and fit in with my experience and the experiences of women I knew who had gone into the sex trades.<P>However, there are many militant sex workers nowadays, especially on the West Coast, who would take offense at the conclusion of these studies. They maintain that being a sex worker is a profession just like any other and that there's no need to find abuse or pathology behind it. <P>So as you say, some may have been abused (maybe many) others may need money, others may embrace it as an alternative lifestyle.<P>Ruby<BR>

When I was in my early 20s, I had a girlfriend who had a "sugar daddy." He was from Mexico and he came in once or twice a month. They would hook up and he would buy her all kinds of stuff and take her to nice places.<P>He traveled with associates who were looking to get hooked up. My girlfriend asked me if I wanted to get together with one of them. I thought about it, and finally said that I would. He was also from Mexico. He was kind and gentle and always made me feel like a lady. At first, I felt kind of weird, but then I thought of all the times I had sex with men for nothing. This guy was really nice. It was like we were dating, except he was married and he was "paying" me. He didn't exactly pay me with money, but he bought me clothes and took me on nice vacations.<P>I didn't feel cheap or anything. He told me he loved his wife but she was very old fashioned. She only had sex ever so often, usually when she felt she was ovulating.<P>Call me a whore or whatever, but I enjoyed that time of my life. And no, I was never molested or anything.

Thank you for responding.<P>So, if it felt like you were dating, you didn't have much trouble getting lubricated, aroused and so on?<P>At the time, would you have seen yourself as a woman with naturally high libido?

I guess I had high libido. I imagine I wouldn't have been able to perform otherwise.