His and Her Health

Hi everyone,<BR> I have been reading this BB and finding out some interesting info. Hopefully someone can help me out.<BR>Little history--age 35, married 12years, 1 young child, no sexual abuse or history, can climax during clitoral stimulation but not vaginally, have a problem with lubrication due to have an Bartholin cyst that was marsupalized but use lubrication, have lost 30lbs on Atkins and only have 12 more to lose<P>I cant get in the mood. Once there I am ok but it is hell getting me there. I love DH and feel so bad for him. He is patient and has a high sex drive. We used to watch porn but the thought of that now sickens me or bores me, I dont know which one.<P>Libido gets worse and worse with each passing year. I have just consulted with a thyroid specialist and after tons of bloodwork the thyroid is working properly so thats not the problem. I think I do have a problem with depression. I asked my MD to prescribe Welbutrin but he refused saying it is dangerous on the liver. Is there anything OTC that I can try? Any suggestions? I have my annual pap appt in September. What tests should we he do?<BR>TIA<BR>

Do you think of yourself as a sexual and sexy woman? Sometimes we're our own worst enemies. I would say it's our responsibility as women to keep the spark alive within ourselves.

Have you had your testosterone levels checked?<P>Also, I have no idea what a Bartholin cyst is, but at the time did it make sex painful? That sort of thing can have long-term consequences on libido.<P>As for natural approaches, this is what I usually recommend. The Atkins diet should be helping hormone levels. The fish oil in this approach should also help with mood. There are other natural ways of fighting depression that don't do a number on libido; I think dona knows more about those.<P>First of all, no stimulants--no coffee, no tea, no cigarettes, no antidepressants (obviously do not go off of antidepressants to do this), no ginkgo or ginseng or any other herbal stimulant. And no hormonal birth control like birth control pills.<P>Second, eat a couple ounces of dark chocolate every day. <P>Third, vitamin supplements. Take a good multivitamin (with 15 mg of zinc) every day, extra 400 IU of vitamin E, extra C (I drink lots of orange juice), fish oil six grams, full load of calcium/magnesium/zinc (1000/400/15), and iron (check with your doctor about the iron). I take 27 mg of iron every other day. Do not take high-dose fish oil like this if you are on blood-thinning medication or aspirin therapy.<P>Fourth, exercise your PC muscles. Kegels are not enough. I recommend vaginal cone weights, work your way up to the fifth weight.<P>Fifth, try the Zone diet or the Atkins diet for meals before having relations.<BR><p>[This message has been edited by zaneblue (edited 12 August 2003).]

You might see this thread.<P><A HREF="www.newshe.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/001206.html" TARGET=_blank>www.newshe.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/001206.html</A><P>I don't have time to write more, but this thread covers many of the points you inquire about.<P>If you have further questions, just ask.<P>Thanks,<BR>Greg<P>------------------<BR>Also note, I am *not* a doctor, and this is not intended as medical advice - Please talk to your doctor about your concerns.<BR><p>[Note: This message has been edited by NEWSHE Moderator]