His and Her Health

I'm 34, married for the past 14 years with 2 kids....... Just wondering if I am normal or not. When talking to friends, most of whom are devorced and some still married but hate their spouse.....anyway, I wonder if I am normal or not, I love my husband and he's the only one who turns my head. We still have awesome sex, it even surprises us sometimes, lol. I have never cheated on him either. We have been together a total of 17 years. He was the second guy I had ever been with sexually also. Just wondering if I am in the abnormal catagory these days??????<BR>Is there anyone else that still likes their spouse???????

You are normal and lucky.there are lots of us who still like(love) our spouses.<BR>Those of us with problems come to this board for information and sharing.I Don't think you need that.<BR>Cheers

Well Ruby, we do have our problems, too many to count but have gotten through them no less. I still however get excited to see him come home after work, we enjoy our time together and wish we had more, like everyone else I guess. <BR>I just don't want to be one of those people that resent their partner later in life. I have seen way too much of that with my parents and other older people. The small things go by the wayside but things that deserve attention recieve it.

It was so great to read your post CdnCountryGirl!! I am 29 years old and have been married for 3 and a half years. My husband and I dated for a couple years before we married. I was so afraid to marry because of the horror stories so it is great to hear such success! I love my husband very much, he is also the only one who turns my head, he is my best friend and confidant and I really LIKE him. We have problems like most other people but what makes us different from most of my friends and family, is that we are VERY committed to our marriage. Here's to your marriage, and many more years of happinness!!<p>[This message has been edited by Darc (edited 27 August 2003).]

Hey, it was nice to read your post CountryGirl. I am 20 and my husband and I just had our 1st anniversary in July. You hear a lot of bad stuff about marriages today. And there are so many people out there that have a bad view of marriage...."You're putting on the handcuffs and throwing away the key" for example. It is an encouragement to hear about people like you. I don't think you and your husband are abnormal, I just think that we don't hear about people like you as often as we hear about the other kinds of people. As my husband and I see it...divorce is not an option. We made an agreement before God, ourselves, and our friends and family to be together forever. I know we will be as happy and in love when we are 34 as you and your husband. Celebrate your marriage forever because many people aren't as lucky as you!!<P>------------------<BR>~Holly~

One thing that gets me with couples today is, most aren't in it for the long haul. I see alot splitting up over things that highschool kids do. No one believes in marriage councilling either, they wouldn't offer it if it didn't help. The way I see it is we have worked so hard over the years to stay together, most of the time against all odds that there isn't much of anything that could tear us apart short of death. I am not too proud to go to councilling if it were needed. Too many people want to throw it all away over one simple little fight or tiff. Life doesn't come easy and if you can't pick one person to get along with you won't ever get along with anyone. Divorce is too easy these day and if there are kids involved they are the ones that suffer most of the time. We moved from a small town to a city and we cannot believe the amount of kids that their parents are split or divorced. Our kids are in grade 5 and 8 and most of their friends have split parents. There are only a handful of kids that their parents are still married. I would have never thought there were that many. Well, all I have to say is we are trying to teach our kids how to comprimise and get along so that they can take those skills along with them in life..........<BR>