His and Her Health

hi! i'm 18 years old. well this past summer i lost my virginity and the first time i had sex i wasnt really sore the next day. but YESTERDAY (as in wednesday, august, 27th also the 3rd time i had sex), my significant other and i had sex.. and there is a milky discharge and the area inside my hips ache sooo bad! i guess im not exactly sexually educated... but im wondering if THIS soreness/acheness is normal the day after intercourse. and if it is normal, im guessing it depends on how hard we were rockin it that night (weird way of putting it... lol) ?? i guess im in need of the whole run-down of do's and don'ts.. or whatever advice anyone can offer. because i have no idea what is normal and what i should be freakin out about! thanks..

You should really consider stopping intercourse until you (and your beau) take the time to *become* sexually educated. I am not saying this to be preachy--I am not really an advocate of waiting until your married, etc. I am saying for both your safety and pleasure. Knowing about your body, what is okay to do and what could be damaging, what things like discharge mean, etc. will make your sex life MUCH better, and assure that you and your beau aren't doing anything that will endanger your reproductive or sexual futures.<P>Begin with reading some basic stuff about your anatomy: For Women Only, by the Berman Sisters, is a great start on an anatomy lesson and what all those parts do. Next, just check out your local bookstore. There will likely be a great selection of books regarding sex and women's bodies there. I am not saying read everything, just pick up a good, serious fact-filled paperback and peruse it. Also, you REALLY need to go to a gyn at once if you've not done so already, and begin to get annual checkups (if you already aren't on an annual regimine). I can't stress how important this is. And, of course, use appropriate disease and birth control.<P>*lecture over*<P>That said, yes, even the most experienced women can get "sore" from sex. It can depend on the time of month, your arousal, your general health at the time (being sick or fatigued will make you more likely to be dry, and so get sore), natural lubrication, etc. It is very important to be fully aroused before sex, since the vagina not only lubricates but expands when aroused.<P>The discharge, so long as it's not discolored or odorous, is probably normal. Most women have a milky discharge daily, and you can wear panty shields for that, if necessary. If he didn't use a condom (and he should be--things like HPV can be carried by a man without him ever knowing it), then it could also be your body expelling his semen. That can happen for up to 3 days after his ejaculation.<P>The pain you are feeling in between your hips could be left over from thrusting strokes that hit your cervix, but that's just a guess. If the pain doesn't go away, or become worse or acute, see a doctor. If it does go away, next time you have intercouse consider a position where your beau doesn't penetrate as deeply (you on top where you can control the penetration is good) or have him thrust a bit less vigorously. <P>Hope this helps a bit.<BR>Dona (had to reregister--computer glitch)<BR>

Also, as ovulation approaches a woman's discharge gets more copious and her cervix becomes more tender and sensitive.

thanks because no one tells me anything and everytime i ask questions they usually get shrugged off! i have regular check ups with my obgyn... which one visit is coming up next week. and i will definately be investing in some books and reading up!! thanks again