His and Her Health

Can anyone help me?<P>I'm married for 10 years and in my early 30's. My husband is my only sexual partner as I am his. I have 3 children at home under the age of 7. I work. I know my sexual experience is limited though I feel my husband and I continue to grow and explore as well as communicate. <P>BUT I don't think I have ever had an orgasm. I'm pretty sure I am pre-orgasmic from clitoral stimulation. I begin to get a build up a muscle tenseness, then I feel icy and warm at the same time, I feel like I want to cry and for this great rythmic feeling to build, I contract my lower muscles to increse this feeling... but then the feelings all reach a screeching halt and my body stops responding to my husband's touch. After I am out for the count. we have intercourse, but I do it for him because I am suddenly not interested anymore. <P>I have tried starting intercourse earlier, before I loose the build up, but it still stops anyway. I have tried learning my body through masterbation, but with a small house and 3 small children, there just isn't privacy for the activity. <P>Anyone else ever feel blocked on the way to orgasm? How did you get past it?

I would recommend getting a vibrator to break the ice. Once your body knows what one feels like, it may be easier for you to do it manually. The Hitachi Magic Wand or the Eroscillator are both good.<P>I'm assuming that since you have enough privacy at night to have sex, the issue isn't so much your children as your husband. You may simply ask him for some time alone (you don't have to tell him what you are doing if it makes you feel uncomfortable), or you could encourage him to have a weekly night out with his friends. Or even better, ask him on the weekend to take the kids out himself for a couple hours to give you some personal time at home.