His and Her Health

my partner states i stimulate him sexually, physically, but not mentally . he has me by a couple of years i have tried everything from seduction with lingerie to rose petals on bed unexpectedly i even talk dirty during sex so i'm really stuck on this mental stimulation thing . i love him and he loves me but i dont want to lose him what should i do or ow do i do since i'm on wrg. track.

Tease him. That may be what he wants, but even if it isn't, with a comment like, "You don't stimulate me mentally," that's what he deserves. Talk dirty someplace you couldn't possibly have sex. Make him give you an orgasm and leave him high and dry. Masturbate in front of him and then turn over and go to sleep. Prance around in sexy underwear in the morning, and then put your work clothes on on top of your sexy lingerie and go to work, with no sex for him. Let him catch you watching porn. Make him work for it.<P>Kind of funny, this is the opposite advice that most women would get coming here, but I think in your situation it might work. On the other hand, I'm really bad at relationship advice and usually limit myself to practical physical things, so maybe other people here would have better advice for you.

Play hard to get/Let him do all the running/all the initiation...?<P>

On second thoughts, was he talking of intellectual stimulation? If he was and you really don't want to lose him, you could try developing greater interest in the things that interest him: reading material, hobbies or whatever. You could, for instance, try accompanying him on those apparantly boring archaeology field-trips and even reading up on them beforehand, for example.<P>