His and Her Health

I always enjoy sex, but I have orgasmed only once in the past six months with my boyfriend. Any possible tips or things to increase my orgasms?

I highly recommend Kegels, as an exercise during the day, and while you're having sex. Doing them while you're having sex helps you physically to achieve an orgasm, and psychologically, by taking your mind off your inhibitions and the "goal" of having an orgasm (which often can backfire and lead to fewer orgasms and the perception of less satisfying sex). Increasing the amount of foreplay helps as well.<BR>

Several questions...<P>Age, medications, hormonal balance, and emotional health can all impact things. With that in mind, you might consider these things, and reply. We/You may find there are some changes that impact things. (For example, Prozac and other SSRI anti-depressants cause serious havoc with sexual function. The entire class SSRI drugs causes problems on something like 70% of the population that uses them. These can range from fairly minor to major - like complete loss of orgasm.)<P><BR><UL TYPE=SQUARE><LI>Age? <LI>Pre/Peri/Post Menopause?<LI>Birth Control (Type, length of time you've been taking it etc.)<LI>Any Sexual Abuse?<LI>Children<LI>Medications (Birth-control, Anti-depressants etc)<LI>Spouse/Partner Relationship Health?<LI>History of the FSD issue, pre and post FSD if possible.<LI>What things you've tried.<LI>What you *think* might be the problem.<LI>Blood hormone levels done? Give us the results and norm ranges from the tests. (Make sure you get a full copy of all results and norm ranges.) </UL><P>Finally, consider a few excellent books.<P><UL TYPE=SQUARE><LI>I'm Not in the Mood: What Every Woman Should Know about Improving Her Libido, by Judith Reichman - Score, 9/10 <LI>For Women Only: A Revolutionary Guide to Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction and Reclaiming Your Sex Life, by Jennifer Berman - Score 8/10 <LI>Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate Lovemaking, by Patricia Love - Score 7/10 <LI>Resurrecting Sex: Resolving Sexual Problems and Rejuvenating Your Relationship by David Schnarch (One really doesn't need both of David Schnarch's books, but both are good and somewhat different. Resurrecting Sex discusses both medical and psychological causes for sexual dysfunction, where Passionate Marriage only reviews the psychological, though it's an excellent book.)</UL><P>I, and others would be glad to follow-up and assist, but focusing on specific issues that might be part of the issue would be a good and perhaps more productive plan.<P>Best wishes,<BR>Greg<P>------------------<BR>See the icons at the top of this post for my profile and more information.<BR>Also note, I am *not* a doctor, and this is not intended as medical advice - Please talk to your doctor about your concerns.<p>[This message has been edited by distressed_12345 (edited 17 October 2003).]