His and Her Health

okay here it goes...the first time i had anal sex it felt great. but since then when i have treid it, it makes me feel like i have to go to the bathroom(if you know what i mean). i use a lot of lube and relax, but the feeling is still there. is there a way to make this feeling go away so that i can enjoy anal sex again?

hey, i had the same problem.. i just stopped it all together since it didnt feel good to me and i wasnt about to have an "accident" lol. but i guess its good to have at least tried it. sorry i couldnt be more help

That's very common and will go away after time. There are lots of very good references for this on the Internet. We aren't allowed to post links here, but if you e-mail me I can send you some.<P>On the other hand, if the sensation makes you feel uncomfortable, don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.

Hello there...<P>Well, i am 23 yrs. old and I am married with a man who's 35, anyway, i love him a lot, i got no kids yet because i am in college. I've tried anal sex for only 5 times.. is too much pain if i am not relaxed... the first time it was so painful that i bleed a little... he helped me a lot.. he told me that this was a new experience and that i should concentrate.. to tell the truth.. I like it...but i have so many doubts regarding this topic... don't know where to find the right information.. but if you can help me out.. here are some of my doubts...<P>1.- Is there any risk in a long term if i keep having sex like that...???<P>2.- How many times is it allowed to have anal sex?<P>3.- Is there any risk if my husband eyaculates on my while he's inside...(Back)<P>4.- My husband has no circuncision...is it taking me into a infection?<P>5.- Which is the best way to enjoy this?<P>------------------<BR>All effort deserves a compensation

I wish I could post some links here, but rather than e-mailing you the info too, I guess I might as well post<P>I'm not a doctor, but there is no risk to your health (e.g. hemorrhoids, fissures or tearing), as long as the sex is pleasurable. Do not do it if it hurts, because it could cause some damage.<P>You can have anal sex as much as you like. But you should be in control of how often, not your partner. You may find over time that it becomes easier.<P>If your husband is disease-free I don't believe there is any risk from him ejaculating inside you. Just remember what goes up must come down, which can be a little disconcerting.<P>I don't know about the risks with uncircumcised men and anal sex. Maybe someone else here would know. I do know that even the gentlest anal sex causes some minor trauma to the tissue, making it a very risky behavior for disease transmission. To be on the safe side, he could wear a condom.<P>The best way is to go VERY slowly, at your own pace. Use lots and lots and lots of lube. Relax and breathe deeply and have him enter you very slowly, promising to stop instantly if you say the word. It might help you to relax if you have a glass of wine first and he gives you a few orgasms.<P>And of course, never put anything in the vagina after it has been in your anus.

I would like to add to Zaneblue's comments.<P>I like to have anal sex from time to time and I fully recognize the feeling of, "I have to go to the bathroom!"<P>I've found what helps me best is clitoral stimulation, either by hand or by vibrator while my lover is penetrating my anus. The differance for me is night and day, I get so excited I actually beg him to keep going. Otherwise it's just too painfull for me and I'll acctually pull away from him.<P>[This message has been edited by ay_gooch (edited 16 December 2003).]<p>[This message has been edited by ay_gooch (edited 16 December 2003).]