His and Her Health

I used to like giving my fiance oral sex and our sex life used to be great (we could go at it for hours) now i hate giving him head, anytime i try i end up gagging (i cant stand the texture and taste). this problem started when i was pregnant and didnt want to taste his cum because in my mind what i was swallowing so was my baby, but now i just cant do it. my son is now 7 months old, i had him c-section and im on ortho for birth control. i never feel in the mood anymore and im always so exhausted (i stay at home with my son). could someone give me some advice on making oral sex easier for me please. also on my mood. thanks for any advice.<BR>p.s. my fiance loves giving me oral sex and i want to be able to return the favor.

amber, you don't have to swallow.

i know, but just having the slightest bit of it in my mouth while im doing it makes me want to throw up, ive tried to spit it out, but it isnt the best way to get turned on and it still never helped. thanks for you reply though. (

I think you have two very different problems going on. You may want to read other recent threads on lack of desire. As for the oral sex nausea, I think that may just be the typical pregnant woman's reflex. Strong tastes and smells can strongly affect a pregnant woman, so much so that even after the baby is born a feeling of nausea is associated with them. For example, my littlest one is two and I still feel a little queasy with the smell of fish food and oddly enough the smell of cooking rice. It's very unfortunate that that happened to you with oral sex.<P>The only reassurance I can give is that these post-pregnancy aversions eventually do lessen with time. In the meantime, I would try experimenting with chocolate syrup, or any other strongly flavored food you fancy. If you feel the least bit nauseated, stop immediately (and certainly don't swallow until you are ready). I hope your husband will understand.

thanks for your reply, i'll try out the experimenting and see how it goes. i really hope this feeling does lessen.

I'm no expert, but I have a suggestion that used to help my wife back "in the day".<P>Many women don't realize that a man just likes having a woman in the area sometimes. You don't have to be some kind of amazing oral queen or anything. Just be tender with it. You don't even have to put it in your mouth. Many, many men can achieve orgasm if you just kiss on the underside of the head where it meets the shaft. Just soft kisses and licks will frequently do the trick. That may help you get over the other issues for a while until you feel more adventurous.<P>At least, I hope it can help somewhat. )

It also may be a mental thing. The mind is quite powerful. You had the idea that when swallowing while pregnant your child also fed from those fluids. <P>Perhaps the disgust you felt from that has carried over because it was such a strong aversion. <P>When I was much younger I tried to swallow a pill and it got stuck in my throat. I panicked and convinced myself I couldn't breathe around it. I still feel the slight edge of paranoia when faced with pills today. If they are small enough, I crush them and swirl them into such a large amount of water that I cannot taste them and then drink the entire glass -- or I swallow them in food. I'll take the time to wrap the pill (no matter how large or small) in something - normally bread before I can even stomach the idea of swallowing it.

I am often turned off by the idea of performing oral sex. They say the scent of a woman turns men on... why can't it work the other way? You might like the idea of a shower/bath for two, making sure to gently massage his package with soapy water. I've found this method positive in the past. It's very sensual and it's nice to know the very intimate parts of both of us are so fresh and so clean, clean.