His and Her Health

I know this question has been asked to many times already but I need to bring up the issue one more time. <P>Does penis size matter? I know alot of woman say no, but of all the woman I have known all have told me yes it does and if a woman says no she hasn't been with a well hung man. Their reasoning is the full feeling you get and the visual excitement from seeing a large penis. If a woman is with a partner with a large penis and then has sex with a small or average size will she have as much sensation and still be turned on by the smaller member?<P>If a woman had to chose between 2 men one larger than average and one slightly smaller than average, both guys equally attractive and personable which would she choose?<P>After childbirth the womans vagina becomes more stretched and has more room is sex with your significant other as enjoyable and provide the same sensation prior to childbirth or not?<P>If you look into all the info on the internet it would seem that size does matter, I have even looked on some swinger sites and there appears to be a lot of well endowed men 8 to 10 inches and a lot of woman looking for partners 8 to 10 inches and thick. Are there that many horses out there?<P><BR>Dojo

I've been with men smaller than average and larger than average so I speak from experience. I do get more pleasure from intercourse with a larger man. But I'm not talking horse size here. A good 6 or 7 inches will do just fine. If I saw a man with a 10 inch penis I would scream and run away. That would just be painfull. In all though, there's so many things a man can do with his fingers and tongue that penis size just isn't all that important. Besides, smaller is better when it comes to anal sex. I hope this helps.

Properly speaking, I am not a suitable person to be the first to answer your post as I have a relatively rare degree of severe primary vaginismus and my views consequently don't reflect the norm. <P>However, just to give what I believe is a very minority view on the matter, let me state that I have, on the internet, encountered ladies who believe they developed vaginismus largely as a result of feeling overwhelmed by a large penis.

Thank you for your replies. It does help somewhat we are so bombarded with it in the media, pick up a mens magazine and the ads in the back are all for penis enlargement. There was also a study done by a condom co. and the results were that about 60% of woman wish they're lover had more length and girth.<P>Nlove what do you consider a good width for a penis because I have read that girth is more important to a woman to give the woman a stretched and full feeling? <P>Again thanks for the replies!<P>Sincerely,<P>D

Hi Dojo. In response to your question, I would have to say that it depends on the woman.(I know, it's a frustrating answer) Some women are tighter than others. Again, too big could be painful. It's all about how you move. I guess I didn't realize that guys were self-conscious about their bodies too. That somehow makes me feel better.

Hello all <P>I can only speak for men, as that is what I am...if I thought I understood men, I would then start to really understand women, I am now 26 and still working on men...giggle!<P>Men in my life experience are way more obsessed with size than women. Its a bit like women worried about breast size, men are interested in the fact that they ARE breasts much more than any quantifier or qualifier of them. There are of course exceptions in both directions, and I am only speaking from my life experience. <P>I am above average size and HATE IT! Many times my clothes reveal the fact, and I get oogled as much as a women in a tube top at church. (and yes its NOT enjoyable after a while guys) I have had problems related to it in intimacy since I was about 14, sometimes that being the focus instead of me, or sometimes interest in me being abandoned due to "poor fits".<P>Honestly I have found as much variation in women's "size" as I have in mens. Even at my size I have been hopelessly too small, and ridiculously too big. Some of the magic gets dispelled here so please stop if a hopeless romantic...I like to think that I am a romantic but not entirely hopeless <P>Almost every medium in human history of conveying messages, thoughts, experiences, and ideas has talked about love and or passion. The magical "perfect fit" that we are taught to believe in is supposed to just "happen", we are supposed to just "know". I am about thirty light years from believing that sex is all that is involved or talked about in this "fit", in fact I would put it somewhere around the "15% of it" mark. I do however believe that the physical fit, from genital to how your bodies "meld" when spooning, go into that magical "knowing". <P>The final thought I am trying to reach is that size does matter, whether in a positive or negative way. There is a man out there that is an exact, or near exact fit, to your vaginal canal, and there is a woman out there that is a perfect fit to your penis size...finding them though, is not what I have learned is the most important thing in a healthy, happy relationship. If you and a lover fit really well, great, if not, there is lots of room for outweighing that difficulty...by my estimation earlier, about 85% in fact <P>P.S. I am happily married for almost three years now (august) to my first true love, after having been separated completely emotionally and georgraphically for 7 years...I still believe in the Magic of love!

Well said Tim, You are my new hero.<BR>My 2 cents...Girth is where it's at!

I think that if you are emotionally and itimately connected then size doesn't matter, because if you really love who you are with it will still feel wonderful!Just sharing something so passionate is a very big thing!I have been with my husband for 10 years and it still feels great, except for when I get overly lubricated.But that's another matter.(ha, ha)

But don't get me wrong my husband is a good seven inches, so I have no complaints in that department. I made it sound like I was with a below average guy.Maybe if he was I would feel differently. I don't really know for sure, but come on how good could four or five inches feel.Unless you never have children.

This is all very interesting! so if you have a 5" penis of average width, can a women have an orgasm during intercourse with you? I tend to think not! My wife claims she did in the beginning of our relationship but can't now? I think she faked to attract me!<BR>she also claimed she did every time with her old boyfriend, but that they had sex only once a month whereas it was every day for us.<BR>She also said he had a 7" penis!! very interesting. I would bet she never or rarely did with me. any females out there have orgasms with smaller penis? any females out there who used to Orgasm but can't now, with same guy (during intercourse)

5.6 inches is the average size of a penis. Only 30% of women can orgasm from intercourse.We all change as we grow older, things we could do before are not as easy to do now. A woman is responsible for her own orgasm.<BR>Good luck

Well, for me size does not matter....would be scared of anything bigger. As long as his tongue and fingers work along with his penis, thats good enough for me. <BR>I am a very small woman also. I have had 2 c-sections as well as an abdomenal hysterectomy and have been with my husband for many, many years. I can't judge very well on size since I have only ever had one other boyfriend and that was when I was a young teenager, size was more important then but I was too scared to look at it.<BR> I'm thinkin if he was any bigger I would be scared of it getting anywhere near me, LOL!! We seem to fit well togther also so I will be happy with his 7 inches or so and not complain.....The penis isn't the only important part of his body....

yes size matters but there is always the problem of to much of a good thing. my husband is more then amply endowed (10 inches and now he has a peircing to add another inch or so) and while it is great sex i can not tell you how many mornings i woke up in serious pain becuae the penitration was 2 deep

I think whether size matters or not is a very individual thing. For me, an average to slightly larger penis is the best, because I don't have clitoral orgasms but do have vaginal orgasms. The best vaginal orgasms I have are from cervical stimulation, and a man has to be a certain size to reach that. I also have g-spot orgasms, and its' easier to achieve those with a man whose penis isn't too thin or short.<P>I've been with the gamut--HUGE to TINY. (Average, btw, tends to vary by study due to methods of measurement, and ranges from 4.5-6.5 inches.) By Huge I mean over 9 inches, with a very large girth. Sex was horrible, and often extremely uncomfortable. I often avoided it and just gave him hand jobs. It could never be torrid, take-me-up-against-a-wall-hard sex (which I tend to enjoy sometimes) because we just had to be too careful about how far he penetrated. And making love was always a tense issue because we were both waiting for him to "slip" and go to deep, causing me discomfort. It was a problem for him, as well, because he could never penetrate me fully, so didn't enjoy sex as much. By Tiny I mean a man (my husband, actually) who has what is termed "micropenis," meaning it is under 3 inches (he is about 2.5 totally erect). Yes, it is medically classified, and no, intercourse was never all that much fun for me (see the sexual health board for why we don't still have sex--it's not related to his size). He was, however, really taleted with his fingers and toys. It can be worked around, but I have to admit I was never totally satisfied with our sex life in some ways. The mind-blowing orgasms I had from deep, prolonged penetration sex were a thing of the past. I accepted it because I loved him, and because sex was reasonable enough. As someone else said, though, anal sex with him was fabulous.<P>A woman who experienced primarily clitoral orgasms may not care about size as much. Someone with certain types of FSD's may also not have the same preferences. While size is always a hot topic, after reading so many posts on it, I don't think there's a universal answer.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by dona1:<BR><B>I think whether size matters or not is a very individual thing. For me, an average to slightly larger penis is the best, because I don't have clitoral orgasms but do have vaginal orgasms. The best vaginal orgasms I have are from cervical stimulation, and a man has to be a certain size to reach that. I also have g-spot orgasms, and its' easier to achieve those with a man whose penis isn't too thin or short.<P>I've been with the gamut--HUGE to TINY. (Average, btw, tends to vary by study due to methods of measurement, and ranges from 4.5-6.5 inches.) By Huge I mean over 9 inches, with a very large girth. Sex was horrible, and often extremely uncomfortable. I often avoided it and just gave him hand jobs. It could never be torrid, take-me-up-against-a-wall-hard sex (which I tend to enjoy sometimes) because we just had to be too careful about how far he penetrated. And making love was always a tense issue because we were both waiting for him to "slip" and go to deep, causing me discomfort. It was a problem for him, as well, because he could never penetrate me fully, so didn't enjoy sex as much. By Tiny I mean a man (my husband, actually) who has what is termed "micropenis," meaning it is under 3 inches (he is about 2.5 totally erect). Yes, it is medically classified, and no, intercourse was never all that much fun for me (see the sexual health board for why we don't still have sex--it's not related to his size). He was, however, really taleted with his fingers and toys. It can be worked around, but I have to admit I was never totally satisfied with our sex life in some ways. The mind-blowing orgasms I had from deep, prolonged penetration sex were a thing of the past. I accepted it because I loved him, and because sex was reasonable enough. As someone else said, though, anal sex with him was fabulous.<P>A woman who experienced primarily clitoral orgasms may not care about size as much. Someone with certain types of FSD's may also not have the same preferences. While size is always a hot topic, after reading so many posts on it, I don't think there's a universal answer.</B></font><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I am amazed after reading most of the letters on this topic at how much the focus is on men and their size. Why is it all about the penis! One writer said that she couldn't imagine who could really be happy with a 5 inch penis....unless you never have kids! Lots of women haven't had kids, may not ever or have had cesareans and are the same as they were before having babies. I can respond to a variety of sizes due to the fact that I had both my kids by c-section. I feel lucky in that regard because I liked my vagina just the way it was and was worried when I was first pregnant about how it would be afterward. The neccesity for a c-section solved that problem. Of course, you have to have that cesarean before you are completely dilated and the baby descends into your birth canal. I was lucky! I have had two children and nothing is different. One man said that he has been both hopelessly small and ridiculously big even at his larger size. That illustrates perfectly that it is not just the penis that matters. Ancient cultures knew about the importance of size to relationships. If I remember, the Kama Sutra has a section devoted to sizing men and women and determining preferable unions by the size not only of the man but of the woman. I think, again, if I remember, that one of the most unfavorable, "unions", was the elephant woman and the hare man....funny! Similarly, the Bull or Horse man and doe woman weren't good unions. I am not sure that I am remembering the animals right but the point is obvious! Anyway, Mr. 5 or 6 inches, do not despair! There are lots women who have smaller vaginas who can completely respond to a man of that size if he is attractive. If fact, I think that the really extra long guys are too big! They cannot get all of the way in and be buried to the hilt the way an average to slightly larger man can. I guess my perfect size (if it were attached to the perfect man)would be a slightly fat (not too) 7 inches. Just enough to hurt a little and be a little overwhelming. That is a good feeling ..that I am being impaled feeling, I can't even budge feeling, let's stop and just feel it feeling! But I have had that from average penises! Anything beyond 7 inches is overkill! It is more fatness or ,"girth", that matters and there is a limit to that! I feel sorry that all of the focus is on men. Women can be less than satisfactory too. I had an affair with a man who said gratefully that is was so nice to be with someone who was ,"snug", for a change. I never asked him what that meant. I was younger and not so outspoken. It was obvious what that meant! Maybe, Mr. average, instead of beating your self up you just need to find a better and happier fit? Why is your girl even with you if she is so unhappy? Sexual compatibility is just one part, but an absolutely important part, of a relationship.<BR>Truly,Poppy.<P>