His and Her Health

Before anyone jumps to the assumption that I am full of it- please hear me out. I try to talk to my friends about this and they always cut me off and start joking around. Here it is- I have an orgasm every time I have sex. I always have, and until recently in a rather embarrassing situation, I was under the impression that I was the norm. Then every gal I talked to said they either have never or hardly ever have one. Why then would these same women claim to enjoy sex? What is the point if you are not having an orgasm? Anyway- that is not my question. My question is- does the size of your clitoris have anything to do with how and how often you orgasm, and does a large clitoris mean that I may have too much testosterone in my system?

Clitoris size is a very under-discussed topic. What few articles I have found on clitoris size have been related to stroid (testosterone) use causing a very large (as thick as your thumb, and as long as one and 1/2 inches) clitoris. This huge size, though extremely attractive to men, sometimes made the clitoris almost painful to the touch. Perhaps you may have an elevated testosterone level, but if you are having no problems (and a high sex drive is NOT a problem), I would thank my lucky stars that I had so much to offer my sexual partner. Be happy with the wonderful gift you have been given.

From what I have seen personally, your sex drive is more "normal" than any of your friends.

Bill

lots of loving partners get satisfaction from and knowing their partner is getting satisfaction. is it necesaary to have an O each and every time? no. is it nice when it happens, absolutely! sex is so much "in the brain". when everything is in alignment Os are much more possible. being endowed as you are certainly puts things "in the line of attack" so to speak, and that certainly helps too. do you know what "norm" is for you, its where you are "at" right now. average is where a group is, and who wants to be average? noone on this board wants to consider themselves average.

I dunno, d rat. I get awfully cranky if I don't get my O. It's one thing if I'm not in the mood (LOL) and want to just give my sweetie a good time. I can have "my turn" another time. But like the original poster, I wouldn't find sex too enjoyable if I didn't climax. The other stuff is great, don't get me wrong, but it would be like smelling a five-star dinner but being served a tuna sandwich. I like tuna sandwiches, but my mouth was watering for grilled salmon.

That said, the orgasm doesn't have to be husband inflicted. If what he's doing isn't getting me across the finish line, I'm fine with taking matters into my own hands. I'd rather do that than skip the O.

As for the original question here, I don't think clitoris size has anything to do with orgasms. It's the same number of nerve endings either way. A smaller one packs 'em in more tightly and a larger one is easier to hit. Advantages and disadvantages both ways. (and I speak from personal experience with both)

First, Eva, I agree the clitoris size does not matter. A man and a woman are both so sexually different in the final orgasm that it is like night and day. A man can be brought to orgasm with oral, hand jobs, blow jobs and even some hot dirty talking and hints of what is to come. A man in some ways has it easy. By this I mean once he has reached his peak, he is able to go over the edge.A woman must work at her orgasm. She unlike the man not only needs the stimulating of her clit to bring her on but the highly arousing stimulation of her G-spot and possible upper love canal. These are important. Without them she does not get that filled feeling and electricity that charges her inside and sends her to sexual heaven.

I am now realizing thinking back at menopause and after this age and into the 60's and wherever I am now, that for a man the simple act of penetration and ejaculating is his sexual high. A woman needs this orgasm to help her get to this place that she needs to find to make this sexual feeling of filling internally possible. I have found that with age and knowledge that as a woman, my internal sexual organs want this and crave this. I have been written this often and they have made what I myself feel in wanting a strong orgasm more creditable. A while back I wrote a woman here about the fact she could not have sex because of a vaginal problem. I hurt for her as I know where she is. But she is only speaking of herself. She has this strong inner sexual desire that needs the hunger and filling inside the parts of her that cannot be filled with what she needs. She cannot speak for her husband because he can be satisfied by oral or many other ways and still love her just as much. We women and men think different in our sexual thoughts. Men can be satisfied easily but women hunger for filling and touching and licking and all the things that a woman animal in heat feels when she is ready for sexual filling. I believe that is why so many of us women both here on the Board and many watching don't know how we could ever live without sex. It is the hunger we feel deep inside us that craves to be filled.....and let me clue you, with age it does not go away...Take care, Caroline

clitoris ize does not matter because the size of the clitoris is determined by the connective tissue, not the number of nerve ending. For example, if you use too much testosterone your clitoris will grow, but it will not become more sensitive because you still have the same number of nerve endings.