His and Her Health

I have been diagnosed with vestibulitis. I have been in pain for years. I am going through whatever non-invasive treatments there are, while still trying to find a local doctor (I was diagnosed by one not so local, and one that I found out later has had some malpractice suits). Some of the best vulva doctors do not accept insurance. How do you find the skilled surgeons and doctors that do take insurance? I understand that you can file with your insurance company the amounts you were charged afterward, but the thing is when you see a doctor who accepts insurance, things are re-rated to a negotiated (lower) rate before you are doled out your share to pay. Anyone had a vestibulectomy by one of the vulva experts that did not accept insurance know about what it ended up costing you?

Thanks in advance to anyone who has any information to share.