Is it me .. or him?
I am writing this hoping for limited judgment.
I met the man I am with in NA a group for recovering addicts. I was 16 and he was 29.. he so sexy and really funny. Immature for his age, acted like 21ish. We started hanging out and having sex. I thought he just wanted me for sex (alot of past issues) I never expressed my feelings towards him. I got pregnant a year later with him. Once I told him ... all our feelings came out for each other. We live together and we are having a pretty good relationship. I am now 18 and he is 31..and our daughter is 1.. he has 3 years clean and I have 2. We love our daughter and we support each other with almost everything. Since I got pregnant, my sex drive went way low. He annoyed me all the time making sexual passes.. I would jsut surrender sexually and let it happen. So once I had the baby I got a little more interested. But now when I want sex .. he doenst and when he does .. I am not interested. To be honest when I am interested , it is usually only because I want him to noitce me and be attracted to me. I try to kiss him and stuff but he has false teeth and he says he doesnt like to kiss cuz it breaks the suction. And when he takes them out it makes it feel weird. ( he isnt use to them yet) in his addiction he never took care of his teeth so he got them removed) So it hurts me when he jokes around and plays games kissing. When I used to use and stuff I never kissed to kiss .. it was jsut to get more drugs or booze. So now that I am clean I want to kiss to have a connection and be intimate. Is that to much to ask for? We used to have sex all the time when we went and the year with in that time.. Is it because I dont look the same as I did or because he doesnt love me. I know he loves me but simple things as kissing cant be done it hurts me. I would love ot have passionate sex again with him but it seems impossible now. When I think if we ever broke up, I would never be able to sleep with anyone else else it even overwhelms me even more..
Does any other couples go throguh this?
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