His and Her Health

I am a 30 year old married female. I had a baby 3 months ago. I do not have the desire for sex, but when my husband tries to get me aroused, I cannot get wet, we have to use jelly.<BR>Beside the fact that I am a little overweight, I have no health problems. I do not take any medications.<BR>Two part question:<BR> Two part question:<BR>1. What can I do to get wet?<BR>2. What can I do to increase my sex drive?

Is the lower sex drive and inability to get wet new since the birth of the baby? If so, this isn't at all uncommon. It often takes several months for the body to return to it's pre=pregnancy state. The constant exhaustion of being a new parent also can play a very large part in libido during this time. If you breastfeed, you can expect the low libido and possibly wetness problems to last until you discontinue breastfeeding. The 'breastfeeding' hormone, Prolactin, dampens sexuality in breastfeeding women.

oh my gosh, i just posted the same topic in that dr. bergmans section. im looking for some of the same advice from someone. although, my youngest is 14 1/2 months, im still having trouble getting wet, and even wanting sex. i recently started taking a anti-depressent called lexapro, and i thought that this medication could be causing me to have no sex dreive at all, and naturally, this isnt making my boyfriend happy at all. in fact, its making him feel like im tired of him, and that i just dont want him at all, and i do love him and want him, i just stay so exhausted with our 3 kids, the house work, and working, plus taking the lexapro, one of the side effects is being sleepy, so that has a toll as well. i could go on and on, but i wont, so if you get help before i do than please send them my way. and, the same here. <P>------------------<BR>always here if you need me!

You can try asking you doctor to switch you to Wellbutrin. Might have a lot better luck with that, it can give you a bit of an energy boost too. With carpet creepers to take care of though, you can bet no anti-depressant will completely make up for exhaustion and lack of sleep. Your BF doesn't sound all that understanding. How is the relationship in general, and are you able to discuss this issue with him? He needs to know how you feel, and be reassured that he's not the reason for your reluctance.