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I tried to perform oral sex on my boyfriend and he pulled me away and when I asked if he didn't like that kind of thing, he responded by saying hurtful things and starting a fight. I was extremely embarrassed and insulted. He also has never performed oral sex on me and will not let me be on top of him. I have a huge sex drive and am very frustrated. He can be a very difficult person to talk to about touchy subjects. He tend to start fights always. Please help me with this. I don't know what to do.

Find a different boyfriend.

He sounds like trouble.If you can't discuss your sexual likes and dislikes without insults or anger you need to step away from him.

You know, it does seem like he has some kind of psychological issues with that. If it's really impossible to discuss these subject matters - you should think carefully; the relationship just can't be complete and enjoyable without understaning, talking and trusting each other.

I am one the side where I can not stand giving oral to men, never have liked it, have done it a few times and maybe because I felt like I had to that is why I don't do it or like it but I love receiving oral and expect it, I am very clean and completely shaved which the men adn women I have been with love but the men do not understand why I wont reciprocate, how do I change my feelings about, well to be blunt, putting a mans penis in my mouth?

Concentrate on your partner's pleasure - keep thinking about how much he's loving it and how good it feels to him. And how he's feeling on top of the world because of something you're doing. Make it about him, the way he makes going down on you about your pleasure.

He does have some hang ups. You should have nothing to feel ashamed or embarrassed about. Many women love doing that for their man and actually enjoy the act itself. Any man who would brow beat you for wanting to do something do something that special for him needs to be reevaluated.

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When we are ready for intercourse my husband starts to keep his lips in my vagina.He kiss until I am not fully stimulated.I like it very much but I am afraid is there any bad effect or any reaction from this work?
My husband want me to keep his penis into my mouth.But I don't like this. Due to this cause my husband becomes sad and Our intercourse becomes very unsatisfactory.
Do you have any suggestion for me?.Please.

There is nothing bad or dangerous to your husband to give you oral pleasure. Neither of you will be harmed by it.

As for giving him oral pleasure, it's a very good thing to do. But maybe you should take it slowly. Get close to his penis, get used to the way it looks and feels in your hand, kiss it or lick it without taking it into your mouth. Later, when that seems comfortable to you, try putting the head in your mouth while you stroke him with your hand.

Tell him you want to go slow and take time to get used to it. If he knows you want to learn to please him that way, I'm sure he'll be happy to work with you and be patient.

Make sure he knows that while you are getting used to it you want to be sure he doesn't climax while you are giving him oral pleasure. But even if he does have an "accident" there is nothing harmful in his semen and it is safe to swallow.

Good luck!

Thank you very much for suggestion.I will try according to you for our better pleasure.
I have more hurting and itching in my vagina after intercourse.My doctor told that I am going to through menopause.So it happens.But I feel that this is happening with my husband's kissing.Because he want to kiss by his lips inside of my vagina every time.When my vagina start to lick I feel more better but after intercourse I feel more hurting.So this is not causes of kissing right?My husband can kiss how long he want, right?He can eat liquid which is coming out from my vagina right?
And I can put his penis in my mouth and suddenly I sallowed his semen it is not harmful right?Please reply one more time after that I will follow your suggestion for my better sex life.Thank you.

Have you read any information on menopause. If not here is a link to two of the best www.menopausewise.com and www.redhotmamas.org.

Both have info on vaginal pain, itching relating to menopause.

I asked so many questions but that website can describes about menopause but not my questions.this website is very useful but I need my answer this time.Can I have answer for my questions please.Thank you.