His and Her Health

I posted this on the men's health forum and was directed here, so I am going to copy and paste it...


Hi, I am new to this form and this may be a little long winded and rambling so please bear with me...

I have been married to my wife for about 2 1/2 years and dated for about 2 years prior to that. I am now 29 and she is 25. When we were dating she did not want to have "sex" so we regularly participated in oral and manual stimulation both ways and it was great. I've always enjoyed oral sex giving and receiving so I was fine with no sex. Move on to after the wedding, she completely stopped the oral sex, sure we had real sex a lot (3-5 times a week) for the first few months and then it started dying down. As it is now, we have sex maybe once every two weeks and she is pretty much just laying there like a lump on a log and requires me to perform oral sex for a good 30 min before she is "ready". I'm fine with giving the oral sex but I'd like to receive it a little and she hasn't done it in over 2 years. She says no when I ask and doesn't give any reasons why.

Anyway, what it's lead to is me being very frustrated with sex in general and a severe case of frequent masturbation, porn, and PE if/when we do have sex. I've tried talking to her about it but she doesn't seem interested in talking. We have a good relationship outside of the bedroom and I don't want this to lead to a separation.

What do you suggest I do to help the situation? Again, sorry for being long and rambling, I just really needed to vent more than anything and am hoping for some good advice.