His and Her Health

So I have been married less than a year. My husband is 23 years old and I was his first sexual partner. We started off very rocky in the bedroom and things seem to get a little better. However when we married there just doesn't seem to be any action at all. And if I start something I end up feeling stupid because he just lays there or is very mechanical. I love sex and had a very active one at that before we started dating. I am bi sexual and dated a girl before him. We have gone to the doctors to see if anything is wrong. They said he is fine. I have suggested counseling and ask him to make the move on it if he's serious and he does NOTHING. I have asked if he's gay. I just get the vibe. He doesn't get hard when I touch him, he doesn't get turned on by anything. I'm just so at my wits end. I am struggling not to cheat on him. Can anyone help..

Since you both had not sorted out your sexual likes and dislikes before you married we definitely think some couples counseling is needed. You make the appointment and tell him you are both going. He may just be inexperienced.

I really think also and you might want to ask him if he has any problem with you being bi-sexual? think about it! you think he is gay well he KNOWS you like girls he could be very self conscious or he may be completely jealous and turned off that you MAY perfur a female over him. Men get insecure very easily and i would ask him that or let him know you only love and want to be with him now. If you new he was gay wouldn't you feel betrayed and uncomfortable with him in bed? I really think that might be your problem.

I totally get what you are saying. However he knew I was bi sexual before we even started dating. We ran the same bar scene and would always run into each other. I have asked him these questions and he says no it doesn't bother him. But when we have sex and I end up crying at the end because it's no good and we can't mesh well it's heartbreaking. I know we are not capatable in bed. But I was hoping that could be fixed. I'm beginning to wonder.

Your instinct about him being gay may be right, the reason he cannot work up the energy or passion to fulfill you is not very promising for a compatible sex life in the future. Think hard about continuing this relationship. You both might end up unhappy.