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Yes I guess my question is fairly odd but this is a huge issue for me and I am getting depressed. For some reason I have a very strong sex drive since I was a kid. Just about anything can turn me on. I end up not being able to focus on my work and sometimes sleep. Although I have in the past enjoyed sex I have come to regret it. I got badly hurt and felt extremly broken hearted. Since then felt sex is something that should be for married couples (I do not however judge or care what other people do). I don't want to have a sex drive anymore, not until I meet the right person. What are some medications, pill, gels or other things I can take to get rid of my sex drive?


Also materbation just seems to make the problem worse. I can't get any peace:(

If you are getting depressed, you should try to get prescribed some anti-depression pills. Many of those pills have side effects that can affect your sexual drive. I've had many friends on anti-depressants who feel they have completely lost their sexual drive. You could talk to your doctor about your problem and I am sure that he/she would know what kind of pills seem to do this the best. But let me tell you, I wish I had your problem!!!

Hi Sunshineflower,

Sometimes people "learn" to feel sexual as an escape from other, less tolerable feelings.

Would you be willing to just keep track of when you tend to feel that you need to have a sexual release. It's possible that you might have learned a pattern of using sex to ward off anxiety or other unpleasant feelings.

Do you think that might be the case?

I wouldn't take meds before I did some other kinds of exploration.

If you're willing to do this, check back in and let me know, ok?

Aline Zoldbrod Ph.D.

HI sunshineflower!OMG i have that same problem!!! and i thought i was all alone. i too, have decided that waiting till marriage is the best thing for me. But it is SO hard alot of the time, trying to rein in my sexual desires! Masturbation helps only a little while...i wish there was a way to calm it untill i am ready without possibly doing any longterm damage.Have u tried meditation or going to a therapist who specializes in relaxation? I think im going to try that for awhile. I do feel that we are blessed with a very fine gift, but controlling it would be nice.And Aline P. Zoldbrod, that is a helpful theory. i do tend to get anxiety alot. thx for posting it:)