His and Her Health

My wife of some years now has only let me preform oral sex on her once, in which she climaxed, and it lead to great love making! Since then she won't let me, because she thinks she is dirty and gross down there, which she is not, in fact her flora (she is clean and has only the right aroma) makes me very very horny!

Ladies I need your help on this, what can I do to get her to let me make oral love to her?????


P.S. I have even asked her right after a shower, and if I go near there with my face she clamps her legs together! We do enjoy great love making, she does make oral love to me! I, so desire to make love to her with my tounge, I have a taste for the human flower, but can't get any HONEY!!!! [Cool]

If it's any consolation, my wife has never let me either. Not to mention no intercourse for the last 10 years. And the fact that those two go together, might tell you something. If you try to talk to her about her unwillingness, does she try to avoid the conversation? Or does she simply tell you she thinks it's dirty and gross?

How do you think she might react to movies in which women are portrayed freely enjoying it?

Can she freely have orgasms otherwise, that is if you only have intercourse? Does she let you stimulate her manually? Does she think you are also dirty, and does she therefore refuse giving you oral sex too?

Answers to these questions might give us insights into her issues.

Yes my wife orgasms from intercourse. Yes she lets me manually stimulate her. No she doesn't think I am dirty, and she loves giving me oral sex! She has also watched porn with me. No she doesn't avoid the conversation, she just sticks to the fact that she is gross down there, and as far as oral sex on her is a big NO!

wow, that's really too bad. i feel in the past it's been socially acceptable for woman to perform on men and not the other way around. that area was always considered 'dirty'. but the truth is men are stinky down there too and she has no problem with your smells and tastes.

does she have close girlfriends? maybe a wife of one of your trusted friends can bring up how much they love it. maybe she just needs a friend to assure her it's ok and that most women enjoy it and she's lucky to have a man who wants perform oral sex on her. and maybe instead of just trying to perform on her, you can say 'i really love the way you taste, it's so sweet and pleasuring you is a huge turn on, let me know when i can do that again, no pressure.

Geno, maybe the orgasm she had scared her. Does she have a poor body image? Does she have an orgasm when you manually stimulate her? Has she ever told you why she thinks it gross? I feel for you Geno and Patient, I happen to love having my husband go down on me and have always enjoyed it. If I could give your wife any advise I would tell her to close her eyes and just let the feelings take her away and to stop thinking about everything else. Live in the moment.

Omg, I would love for my husband to do me orally. Your ladies are so so lucky, I hope they realize that soon. Good luck fellas!!
Chrissy

Me too... wish my hubby would be willing to give and/or receive oral sex. not sure what to tell you - I have never had an issue whit anyone wanting to be down there.

My wife loves it when i give her oral.Her first husband never did anything to please her,
So i get to be the great love and stud of her life.
I can stay down on her for hours.
there is nothing better then the sweet smell and taste of the women you love.
I hope you guys and gals get to experience that with your lover.

I'm on the other end. I've let my husband perform oral sex only a few times. I don't climax very easily and have never come during any stimulation from him except intercourse. I'm worried that it's gross down there. Mostly it's that I find nothing sexually attractive about women's parts so it's hard for me to believe that he would want to be down there. When he has gone down there, I get self concious that he's going to get impatient with me because I'm not coming fast enough which doesn't help me enjoy it at all. I think I would be able to be more relaxed with it if I felt it was for his enjoyment and not just him trying to get me to climax.

To Wife_and_mom: you know, I had similar problem with all of my ex-partners. I always worried they'd get impatient by doing that and I never could completely relax and never enjoyed.
And now I know that the issue was a lack of trust and conversation. My current (very much loved and adored) boyfriend kept asking and asking how can he please me more, what would I enjoy, why am I worrying so. And I finally told him that I am worried about him getting tired and disliking the process. And he said: "OMG, you smell amazing down there, I love doing it, it turns me on, I'll never get tired! Look at the erection I am getting from doing it to you!" I believed him, relaxed and now I come at least twice during sex from oral sex. And you should do the same!

Or, and to geno: Talk, talk and to her. keep asking why, keep saying you are loving it. And try and try, she'll believe you eventually. I did. )