His and Her Health

hey, this has been a problem for me for as long as I can remember.

My clitoris isn't sensitive in that it hurts when touched directly, but whenever I am about to have sex, doing the usual foreplay touching, kissing, whichever - my clitoris becomes extremely sensitive and any touch directly, for even several seconds, can really set me off - aka - orgasm. It's really bad how sensitive I am in this area.

I've told my partner to not touch it directly and use vaginal stimulation instead. But when I am alone, masturbating, I do not have this overly-sensitive clitoris problem.

I feel like my body becomes so aroused so quickly from the touch of someone else that I just lose all sense of control and can't help it at all. Problem really gets me down. Is there a way I can be less sensitive? Or do I just have to find a way around it? Is this a mental thing?

Thanks for your time and input in advance.

And this is a problem??? It sounds like you're a healthy women who responds well. Just close your eyes and tell him what you want and enjoy.

Speaking as someone who takes forever if even then to climax and who has never had a vaginal orgasm, I would love to have your problem just for once! Wonder - do you have multiple orgasms as well? Sigh....

This forum is so interesting though in that sometimes we get so caught up in our own issues we don't always appreciate that others have their own problems. I can understand that if your clitoris is so sensitive that it is uncomfortable or you wish to enjoy the buildup longer than it would be frustrating. Sounds like you just need to communicate with your partner that he needs to not touch your clitoris or only have intercourse in positions that give you gspot/vaginal orgasms like doggie style so that your clitoris is not directly stimulated. Or perhaps have less foreplay so you are not so aroused when you start intercourse? I know there are techniques - mental and physical - that you can do to prolong an orgasm so you might want to research those.

Also, many of us follow zaneblues diet to become more easily orgasmic, maybe you could try doing the opposite of those ideas to see if it slows down your orgasm if that is desired?

Haha. This is a problem, I think! I would like to be able to last longer and it is often embarrassing if I orgasm so soon. Where is the fun in that?

I've never have multiple orgasms before, no. I know there are some women who just take forever through clitoral stimulation, but I'm not necessarily sure I am jealous of that or not. Too much hard work, I think! But in my case, too fast, too soon.

I've never heard of zaneblues diet, but I will look into it.

This sounds like a mirror to my problem. My clit is also super sensitive, but so much so that I have never had an orgasm using my hands, or been given an orgasm by anyone else, whether using their hands or mouth. The sensation feels so intense, that I squirm and push their hand away, because I can't take it. I have orgasmed with a bullet, but I hate to depend on this because I've read that my clit can become desensitized this way. Any way I can learn to tolerate the intense pleasure of manual stimulation?

Try having your partner using their tongue with very soft strokes or extra soft touch with fingers.

My girlfriend shares this exact problem. Whether I use my hands/mouth. She loves it up until the point where I believe she is VERY close to orgasm, but she begins to squirm and asks me to stop and pushes my hand away because it's "too good", it becomes too sensitive, she says she has to try and relax completely..
She doesn't masturbate, and her previous boyfriend of 3 years had the same problem. She has never had an orgasm.
It frustrates me because she just says it's good enough. We both want her to orgasm vey much I think.

I seem to have this problem as well, and my boyfriend just doesn't understand it, lol; I'm glad I'm not the only one.

Try touching the clitoris using the labia as a buffer. Move in from the side and stimulate the clit through the labial tissue- this will diffuse the sensation and perhaps feel more comfortable as you approach climax.

Also, breathing is key to spreading sensation around the body. A lot of people tend to get very tense and all the arousal is felt in the genitals. Try relaxing your body and breathing more to let the sensation flow more freely.

Let me know how it goes!

Wishing you a lifetime of pleasure,

Christine

I have a problem that once i orgasm, my clit becomes very very sensitive. I would love to try to have multiple orgasms, but this has only happened when i was drunk and it took along time to have an orgasm in the first place.

My girlfiend also has this issue... any advice??

Also, sometimes her orgasms are not that great - I have worked out tiredness has a big effect (the more tired she is the less explosive the orgasm), but are there any more things we/she could do to get better Orgasms often?

Hi,

Dunno if this relates. My GF and I have been going out for a year. When we first had sex (we were both virgins) and subsequent times after I would be able to get her to climax to multiple orgasms through vaginal penetration, but the one thing that would fustrate me is being unable to pleasure her through her clit. She would mention that it "tickled too much" and couldn't pleasure her through it. Now we haven't been seeing each other recently because of school the past couple of months and didn't have much contact so she could concentrate on her studies but she's just finished for the year and when we started fooling around again mostly orally through fingering/tongue she all of a sudden felt pleasured in that area and for a whole week I was able to pleasure her through her clit and vag. I asked her what had changed and she said it just all of a sudden became pleasurable (she also mentioned that her labia became more unfurled). I asked her if she'd been masturbating and she said no. Is there some physiological explanation for this?

I am also VERY ticklish when receiving oral, or sometimes even just from the hand...dont know how to explain this to my partner...he thinks he is doing something wrong...I always have to push him away.

I have the same problem, and i have to make my boyfriend stop but he doesn't understand why, and i dont really know how to explain it to him.
Any help?