His and Her Health

My fiance of 9 months doesnt like to have sex. I have told her on 3 occassions that our sex lives is not healthy. We have been going out for 9 months, I proposed to her 4 months ago and the sex has always been the same. She is a single MOM of 2 girls and she also works the normal 8-9 hr day. She is a tall gal, 36 yrs old,185 lbs and very very lovable to me.I am 40 yrs old and I love her very much. Last week I said you should see a doctor and she she kind of offended. We hug and kiss like newlyweds and we are a loveable couple, No one would ever believe that our sex life was this POOR!!. I asked her and she said she has always been like this. I think she has a problem and probably needs PROVESTRA. Should i get some for her to see if it works? I want my life to work with her. I have so much energy...I cook I clean the hous e Isend to wash the clothes. I am the do-it all guy. I just want to help her to see if her energy level increases.

She's not abnormal. She doesn't have a problem. She's been clear and honest with you. You need to either accept it and adjust yourself to her, or you need to move on. There is nothing you can do to change who she is. Making her feel abnormal is not going to help the situation.

i agree with conner but i also think you could make some other suggestions other than maybe there is something medically wrong. that would offend me too!
first and foremost, ask her if she is happy with the way your sex life is. i know that there is nothing medically wrong with me, i just don't really feel into it all that much and if i feel forced then i end up being emotionally wrecked. there are a number of reasons why she might not be into sex. COULD be medical, could be hormones, could be nothing at all. sometimes i can't think of one good reason why i don't want to have sex, i just don't. and i am in a very loving relationship like you are.
you have to be patient and not push her.
one thing i tried that is helping me is a diet change. i was amazed at learning about what certain foods can do to your emotions and your libido. i am not staying away from sugar, caffeine, and starchy carbs. eating more fruit and veggie, natural foods, whole grains. eating "good" fats and no processed food. if she is open to it try getting a book called "the orgasmic diet". you can read all about it on this forum, that's where i learned about it. it's the post at the top with over 400 replies. i really like it.
good luck.

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