His and Her Health

I am 37 years old and have never been able to have an orgasm during sex. So two years ago, I purchased a Hitachi Wand (the plug in vibe) and used it on my clit every single night for the past two years. I just went through a divorce after a three year separation so I have not been with a man in that time so no clue if I have damaged myself or not but I do know that I cannot get off without a vibe. How long can I go without it before I am normal again or have I damaged myself forever because of my frequent use and the intensity of the machine???

Hi. Ive been through the same thing. I was very busy, and broke up with my boyfriend so i started fingering myself. I got so used to it that i forgot how to get off with out my fingers. You need to have more sex, and try to enjoy it. Get your head in the right place. And throw out the vibe! They can completely ruin your sex life. Tell me how this goes

Something similar happened to me - while single I used the vibrator every night for years to get to sleep and then when I got into a relationship I realised I was addicted to the vibrator and couldn´t come without it.

You didn´t do any damage, you-re just addicted to the vibrator (ever see than Sex in the City episode where Charlotte gets addicted to her Rampant Rabbit, well that´s happened to you)

My advice, wean yourself off the vibrator and use your fingers instead. You´ll soon find yourself being able to come by manual stimulation.

Good luck

I think I have damaged myself with also but with my own fingers. After all these years of getting off that way the orgasm just isnt the same I think I do it so often that I am somewhat numb. I can actually orgasm in 30 seconds or less. I have never been able to have a g-spot orgasm so I always just play with myself vibrators dont even work for me. But now at 34 I barely orgasm ever. It is a quarter of what it once was. But I do it to fall asleep sometimes 2 or 3 times a day.