His and Her Health

I've am married 5yrs and throughout these yrs my husband and I have always had arguements because I am not romantic and show no interest in sex.

I dont know what to do because now it seems that our marriage is hanging on that. Because of me and my sex problem. I cant satisfy him, do what he wants me to do. He wants to watch porn and I dont.

I am really, really bad at this dont know what to do. I have twins - 18 minths old, if I have to leave him, he will keep them and I dont want that. At the moment there is only one way out of this for me. It has benn on my mind for some time now. Everything in our relationship revolves around sex.

I cant take it any more

sbsb,slow down and think this through. You have twins that consume almost all your time and attention. Even though they are 18 months old you have not regained your normal hormonal balance and I am sure you don't get the rest you need.Consider seeing a couples counselor to talk out your relationships needs on both sides. I don't think your children can be taken by your husband if you divorce him. A judge determines who gets custody .There are free social services that you can go to for information and help.Don't become depressed do something. See your OB/GYN and talk to the doctor about your problem.
Please stay in touch.

It really worries me when someone says "there is only one way out of this for me. It has been on my mind for some time now."

I'm saying this just in case you meant you were thinking of taking your own life. Please call a crisis hot line or your church pastor or someone today. There is help out there for you.

You put your location as "SA" - I don't know if you're in the US or not. Is that South America? San Antonio? If you give us a city, maybe we can help you find the right number to call.

Your babies need you.

eva_m, I'm in South Africa and an Indian(hindu). Its diffcult to be one as well coz you have to keep up to your in laws ways.

Anyway, there has been a number of incidences that I think has also changed the way I feel about life. My husband is a wonderful husband and has never hit. Verbally, yes-he is a bit of a short temoered person and if he doesnt get what he wants than you are it.

I find him spoilt by his mom. We live seperately and I had to go to his mums house to help with cooking and stuff -- remember I'm hindu, parents dont let go so easily. I had a home based business which I had to close coz of going their every time and dissappointing customers.

I just feel like I not allowed to be happy. To my husband every thing revolves around sex, sex, sex. I do have a very full day coz of the twins and also that I have started another home business which is still goin on and good and I find myself really exhausted at the end of the day and to still have sex.......

Sometimes I feel that I am the only person on this planet that doesnot like sex. I can live with out it. But this is our relationship thats on the line and if it goes I go.