His and Her Health

Hello, I'm a 19 year old lesbian and I've never felt anything during sex. I've been sexually active since I was 14 (all with women, I've NEVER been at all attracted to men) I can feel that someone is touching me, but that's all it is. I get aroused from watching porn or other things that normally arouse people. I've tried masturbation, but I still feel little to nothing. I don't masturbate like people normally do, because I feel nothing. The way I've been doing it my whole life is kind of hard to explain. I usually do it over my panties. I put my right hand on the hood of my clit so that the base of my thumb is pressed into it, and I put my left hand on top and I rub vigorously. That's the only thing I can do to feel some pleasure. After about a minute I feel pleasure, but it only lasts a few seconds and wont come back. I have no insurance, and no job, so I can't afford sexual therapy. I've tried toys. Nothing works. Also, I've been to a gynecologist, I have a rather large clit. I wanna say if I stretch it out, it's almost 3 inches long. But my doctor said it's normal. Somehow I don't believe that because I've never seen anything like it. My family has a history of depression. I was diagnosed when I was around 14/15, I took anti-depressants for a few years, but have been off of them since I was almost 17. I know it couldn't have been those because I've been masturbating my whole life, trying to feel something. Someone please try to help me.

Also, I've been with around 11 women. I feel very comfortable during sex, so it isn't that. And I've been very attracted to most of the women I've been with, so it isn't that I wasn't attracted to them. Oh, and I've been in a committed relationship for about a year and a half. If any of that helps.

Did your gynecologist test your hormone levels whenyou saw him/her. You might want to start there.

I'll try that next time I go. I just don't have insurance, or a job yet, so I have no idea when that will be.

Hello, I have various difficulties over my life with not being interested in sex, not feeling anything, just sort of numb. And figured it's just how it is. I did not see much research being done for women on any sex health or just plain health issues for a long time. I did however find one book that talks about so many of these issues. It's written my a doctor named Daniel Laury and don't let the name fool you it's for all ages but it's called SeniorSex on amazon.
This doc asked his patients questions for years and listened to ther concerns and then put it inot a question answer book that actually has good suggestions and answers. So when I see folks suffering I try to alert them to this book since it helped me so much.
I do not know what may be causing your situation but I feel there are answers. You can contact him directly too I believe.
the best to you, le

Aside from gong to a gyne, you should check yourself too. Why are you so depressed? What makes you feel that way. Maybe you can settle that on your own and that is a good start since you cannot go back to a gyne yet. Observe changes in yourself as you deal with your depression. And if it fails, you should proceed to plan B, to a gyne. Have her/him check your hormone levels. And one more thing, I believe your doctor when he/she said your clitoris is normal. I think she/he might have seen enough to know which one is normal or not. Good luck!!!