His and Her Health

I have an unusually HIGH sex drive and don't know what to do about it. I get to the point in work when my whole pelvic area feels like it's on fire and ready to cum with a mild touch from my finger. I was on a plane last week and was all the way in the back, when it started the take off my seat was KIND OF vibrating and it got me off. Now that wouldn't be a problem if I wasn't a very fluid person when I cum, but that's another issue I have not heard too much about.

Can anyone help me with this?

Oh my, I know exactly where you are coming from! I have tried to control a very hungry sexual appetite for years. I don’t want to stifle it, matter of fact I rather love my drive and my hubby thinks it pretty cool too. But there is a time and place for everything and the office or an airplane is not it.

A few tips I have had to use:

-No pants, no jeans, nothing with a crotch or inseam area. The last thing you need is the bit of pressure that jeans can offer in the area.

-Wear feminine products. I am not a fluid person when I cum, I only have several projecting droplets of fluid, but arousal keeps me very wet. If I go several days without sexual pleasure and release, my glands kick into overdrive and I stay extremely wet.

-Focus: Men do this to slow climax at times. Do math, count backwards, think of anything that could pull your mind away from the climb to climax. I don’t do this very well and I am working on my “mental harnessingâ€

I have a question for both of you! HCW and PussyKat
How old are you gals?
I started to feel much alike to what the two of you describe about a year ago. (I’ am 34) One thing I noticed after a couple of months. Once these feelings started was a medium dark line from my navel to my pubic hairline. Not something that stands out too much so that warring a bathing suit would obviously reveal it. You’d have to be looking for it. I have only known of this occurring when a woman is amid her pregnancy. Have either of you heard of this before? Or maybe developed “the lineâ€

Personally I've just gotten good at faking not having an orgasm in public. Not only do I orgasm many times every time I'm on a plane, I generally orgasm any time I drive anywhere. At work I have my Betty's barbell in a small purse and bring it with me into the (individual) restroom at work once or twice a day. I don't see the problem, plenty of eighteen-year-old men with similar issues, and at least women have more freedom and it is easier for us to be discreet.

As for the fluid--pantyliners.

BStrong - I am glad to see that your trails have only made you and your lover stronger. I hope it is always this way for you.

I do not have the "line" now, but I did several time while pregnant. I do not know what it is, but I do recall my doctor stating something about hormone change made it happen. Again, I really don't recall the detail.

I am, um, *cough* 41. Ouch, that just hurt to type! But I am very young at heart!

My drive never just happened, it has always been. Since very young (about 6) I have enjoyed self pleasure. I didn't have my first orgasm until 16, but I still had wonderful amounts of pleasure without orgasm.

I do understand your intensity of orgasm. My husband knows that IF he gets me going too much before intercourse he will not get in. He is very guarded in foreplay orgasms and has to make sure I am "settled" so he can enter. Our term for the "pouting" is "milking". My husband states that once I begin to orgasm it feel as if he is being "milked". At this point he knows their is no hope, he is a goner and must surrender.

Like Zane, other then my flushed cheeks and maybe misty, glazed eyes no one would know of an orgasm in public, except for my hubby, he can spot them a mine away.

I do love this and would never choose to change it. I have always practiced good judgement and managed my desires descretly.

PussyKat,
Thanks for your response.
I'd have to say the same about drive when it comes to youth 6 or so for self-pleasure.
My daughter was born 2 months before my 17th birthday. (The beautiful little boy crazy scoundrel, who I love so much!)
Anyhow, I noticed a decrease with sexual enjoyment for a while. Plus the donor was quite the mental case, who has to date, "done nothing with his life." Gone from the picture now for many years, "not complaining."
When my husband and I were married I was all of 23 so he robbed the cradle being that he is 8 years older than I. (ha ha!) We always climaxed together effortlessly. It was not until about 31 that I started to not want to play his way anymore. Typical guy who didn't know better he was a little to fast into the action. I really started to resent this out of the blue; it started to bug the crappolla out of me!
Then in Dec. 2003 I discovered a fibroid the "typical size" of a grapefruit 8cm. ; )
No, "not fun in all actuality!" It was causing the nerve and blood supply to my left leg to be greatly impaired and was a matter of minutes, hours, days from cutting off my urethra. Not good at all!
So, this resulted in immediate surgery, removing only the fibroid tumor, a myomectomy.
The only way to go, otherwise bye bye uterus! “No way!â€

i would like to throw in 2 cents worth, if its even worth that. but since my wife has had her iud removed she can also "milk me" as u say. i thought it was because the iud had caused some pain or mild discomfort for so many years and now she is free of it. in any case its all good now! if it stays like this for another 30 years ill stay a happy man:) "relax and enjoy", i like that! i heard one woman call it beligerant sex.

Sorry I hadn't gotten to respond to all of you before. I'm 41 (soon to be 42) and this all started around the age of 35. I was never sexually aware until I hit 17.

I appreciate all the words of wisdom shared above and will take heed to some of them.

I had a hysterectomy in November, after having fibroids removed through a myomectomy last August. I was afraid this sex drive would wane, but it didn't it's only gotten more heightened, scary huh?

So NO ONE has had the fluid thing, huh? That's the one that's a real killer. My husband loves it because he knows I CAN'T FAKE it that way!

Thanks everyone for your help.

BStrong you are just too funny. I am glad your medical condition was found and corrected with no lasting issues, that is a blessing.

I only developed the dark line in late pregnancy and it disappeared soon after. I have never had a baby though. I have had many miscarriages and two still born births. The last miscarriage turned very critical and I was in ICU for 11 days, with that loss I lost the ability to become pregnant again.

I also agree with you about speaking openly. It seems like if I say something the least bit complimentary of my husband or something that praises him, I am treated odd or strange. Many women only openly complain and are not used to hearing someone express satisfaction.

Now, speaking of talking openly, I would like to ask about sleep issues. I have always talked and walked in my sleep. Now, about the last 10 years, I have taken to having sex and orgasming in my sleep.

One night I took my husband orally in the middle of the night, two nights later I did it again. Later that week he made a comment that he was enjoying my new activity and I questioned what he meant. I slept through it and have no recollection of the events. Since, I have awakened during intercourse and was told that I started it.

My husband now can tell the difference if I am awake or asleep, for one, when I climax I am finished and just roll over back to sleep. Now if I was awake, I'd NEVER dream of stopping at this point, he'd most certainly be satisfied. Another way is looks and sounds made, all different. He loves it and goes along with it, except for oral. The guy has this weird phobia and really wants me alert when he is in my mouth, crazy dude.

I have not seen a change in my drive since 22, it seemed to peak and has always held. But my nights are getting more active, erotic dreams have become very commen and this hasn't happened before. My husband has woke to find me about to climax without him and he is a tad jealous. I can say honestly, it is him in my dream.

Case in point: Last night, we sleep spooned and naked. My dream was the sun beating on my back and I was mounting him in a lounge chair at the beach. In real life, it was his hot chest against my back, but I was calling out how hot he felt and how hot the sun was. I woke him up and he felt me begin to climax. No stimulation what so ever.

I was just wondering if anyone else has this, it doesn't really disrupt my sleep and it doesn't bother me in any way. But it is growing increasingly more often and more intense. It seems now to be on an average of twice a week.

I have orgasms in my sleep all the time, at least once a week. Sometimes multiples. Once my dream partner made me count them up to seven before I woke up, have no idea how I stayed asleep.

Wow, PK. I wish my wife had your sleep disorder!

Back in my somewhat wild batchelor days, I once dreamed I was making love to (the woman who is now my wife), but I awoke to discover I was in someone else's bed and having sex with her!

Wish I wouldn't have awakened. That spoiled everything. She was enjoying it, but when I realized where I was, I wasn't. I went back to sleep and kinda left her hanging there.

Moe - I hope you share that story with your wife. I bet she would feel it truly precious.

I like my 'disorder' too, except when it is geared toward oral. My husband will not have it and must wake me, seems to make me a tad grumpy to get woke up from one of 'those' dreams.

Dear HCW,

Of course we've had "the fluid thing". Try looking up the threads on ejaculation.

Mercy

PK,
Yep you called it, “I’m a goof!â€

HCW,
Glad you made it back.
I was wondering why after having the fibroids removed via myomectomy in august. That you had to have a follow up surgery to have a hysterectomy? Did the surgeon also remove your ovaries? Was there recurrent infection or another continuance of problems?
After my myomectomy I was not 100% until a full year but bleeding problems and painful sensation shooting down my left leg. It was also having an affect on my hip also on that side. (Due to the tumor impinging on the nerve and blood supply to that leg.) Oh, and what a relief not to be running to the restroom all of the time.
I had one fibroid only on the outside of the uterus that was positioned on the back lower left side. Not need to go into the inner tissue of the uterine lining, in my case. I was lucky that I had dual ins. and it covered the Mayo hospital in my opinion they have some of the very best doctors on staff they are treated nice with their employment with the Mayo. It is top of the line care. Lots of seniors as patients but I don’t mind. The Mayo is best known for and typically deals with serious terminal illness. So, a lot of people don’t even bother to see if their ins. covers Mayo treatment. That is in my theory why you mainly see seniors is because they are willing to spend the rest of their money on staying alive. Sad, but I think it to be true.
The fluid thing out and about, no I don’t experience that. Although during intercourse I do “gush.â€