His and Her Health

Hey, I'm 18 years old.

The first month of college(this year) I got a boyfriend. We've been together ever since. He was my first, and only my second boyfriend. He isn't small -- average -- and he isn't inexperienced; I'm his 9th sexual partner.

But here's the problem: I have never achieved an orgasm during sex. I can give myself an orgasm through masturbation and he's able to give me an orgasm the same way(sometimes). It often takes me FOREVER to orgasm through masturbation, and NEVER through sex.

Sex between two people is, to me, the most amazing and beautiful thing. The fact that I cannot have an orgasm during sex is destroying our relationship and has thrown me into a depression. I cry a lot about it.

I've almost given up on sex. I try to avoid sex because the hurt and disappointment is often too much to bear. To some people this might seem stupid, but to me it's very very important.

When we have sex, because I don't feel ANYTHING, I often get dry relatively fast, thusly ending our intercourse. :\

I feel like I am broken.

I need help, please!!

EDIT:

Please please please do not lecture me about how "there are other guys" or "you're still young". I am not interested in that sort of advice, nor is it your place to advise. No hard feelings.

When you say you don't orgasm during sex, do you mean from intercourse?

I have to tell you, you're not broken, you're normal. MOST women do not orgasm from intercourse. It's completely NORMAL. Most women (like 70%) require direct and sustained clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm.

Sex is amazing and wonderful, but it INCLUDES all the things that please and satisfy both partners, not just thrusting.

I'm not surprised you're getting dry - you're fretting about what's "wrong" with you instead of figuring out what works for you.

Learn what you like. Show your boyfriend. Teach him how to pleasure you. Have him help you reach orgasm before he enters you. Intercourse immediately after an orgasm feels amazing.

I hate that movies and media are still promoting the myth that all a woman needs is a hard penis in her vagina and she'll be over the moon in a minute. Real lovemaking is so much more than that.

No advise just a suggestion.Click on this link to where you can ask your questions.It has tons of info for the sexually active younger person.
www.teenwire.org

Eva, I'm not surprised by your response at all.

Everything you're telling me is the only advice anyone seems to give, no offense. I know and understand everything you're saying already.

I'm not fretting about anything. During sex I am completely 100% involved in the moment. I'm not interested in having an orgasm before we make love, it defeats the purpose of the whole experience.

Unfortunately, I'm not experienced in sex at all so I don't know what I like. Since nothing works, technically I don't particularly enjoy anything so... :\

Here is a link to an article by Dr. Jennifer Berman that may interest you.
http://www.bermansexualhealth.com/lifestyle/5-tips-for-achieving-orgasm-through-intercourse.html

SexuallyFrustrated -
Let me give you a little tip. Be very happy you can give yourself an orgasm through masturbation and he's able to give you an orgasm the same way. Some people can't have ANY orgasms so you having one is a good sign. Enjoy the fact he can give you one too- just imagine if he couldn't even do that for you. Good luck and I hope you find an answer. When you do post here.... it might help me out.