His and Her Health

Hi Ladies - I'm sure you've never heard ~this~ before but...

...my GF of 3 years has pretty much lost her desire - not that I'm sure she had one to begin with. Our first year was fine - not spectacular but we at least had quantity. Quality has been an ongoing issue. I've tried to mix things up: Nooners (only one in three years), toys, romantic times alone, playing silly games, spontaneous make-outs etc. She even seems inconvenienced to have sex once a week, only at night, in front of the TV, missionary and no foreplay - giving or receiving. I haven't had a BJ in three years. She's a real creature of habit and it's been driving me insane. I've talked to her about the lack of intimacy (meaning that she never touches me, kisses me like I'm her brother and doesn't really get into sex at all) and lack of variety and she has brushed it off as me being a sex horny fiend. Um..OK.

I'm 42, she's 35. We live in separate houses (which I think is our saving grace as we only spend the night together 4 days out of the week) but I'm about ready to call it quits. She's a great looking girl, very smart and I love being with her but I am a man - I can't just not think about sex.

I don't know how to get things going without sounding accusatory & making it seem like it's all her fault. ~Something~ I'm doing (or not) has to be the cause. I feel like a lousy lay at this point and I am withdrawing from her as I can't stand the rejection much longer. So many things have been running through my head (is she comparing me to an ex? is she looking for new/old flings on Facebook and keeping me around until something better comes along? etc)

I haven't felt so insecure in eons. What's a guy to do??