His and Her Health

Alright, so I've been searching different forums for a similar problem to what me and gf have. Some are close but not quite.
First off, we're younger than a lot of people I've read about. I'm 20 and she'll be 20 this July '09.

This September will be 2 years of dating. We've been attempting sex for most of that to no avail. I've had sex only once before her (so I'm going on 2 years w/o it) and she's never had it.

Now, I'm not what you would call "well endowed" and we've never been able to get it in. I believe she has vaginimismus(I googled it a while back), it's an subconscious tightening of the pelvic floor muscles.

On top of that, she has NO libido. She MIGHT get horny on random once every few months. Now she is on the pill, but she wasn't really much better before that. There are times when I've given her oral and she gets NOTHING from it. Any form of foreplay and sometimes just cuddling makes her nervous and tense. Our relationship is fine except for the bedroom. She's so insecure that she can't even tell me she thinks I'm attractive for fear of rejection.

I honestly don't know what to do. I try everything I can to comfort her and make her relax and it JUST DOESN'T WORK. I want to know what it's like make love with some one you care about...HELP!

ahamp, you have a gf that is a virgin insecure,young and nervous.She is still developing emotionally and mentaly. BC can lower her libido. Is it painful when you try to penetrate her.If so she might want to see a Gyn for an exam.or did she have a pelvic exam when she got her BC>?

It's painful for her because her muscles tighten to such an extreme point. Supposedly this occurs due to fear of pain (and she can't stop her body from doing it) and then when penetration is attempted, it hurts more and reinforces the body's subconscious fear. So despite her wanting to, her body won't allow it.
And she's been examined twice now since she's been on the pill for over a year. She told me that at her 2nd visit, she actually pushed the forcep thingys out! This surprised her Dr. as well.